Travel Tuesday Happy Hour Podcast - Exploring the World Through the Eyes of Passionate Travelers

How to travel with really young children

Episode Summary

If you are wondering what's it's like to travel with young children and want to know what it takes to get a baby's passport created. The McKens answers those questions and more. They share their secret to traveling with young children. The McKens also share with us their love story from the beginning to now. Let's hear what the McKens have to say.

Episode Notes

If you are wondering what's it's like to travel with young children and want to know what it takes to get a baby's passport created. The McKens answers those questions and more. They share their secret to traveling with young children. The McKens also share with us their love story from the beginning to now. Let's hear what the McKens have to say.

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Episode Transcription

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So we were doing like I think we went somewhere with her

 

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and then we came back to global entry and then it was like she needs

 

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global entry as well. She begins in Mexico.

 

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So we our children have passport, which is another joke too,

 

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because like just getting the child a passport is like the biggest joke ever.

 

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So it is like holding the baby up and just like

 

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kind of the funniest thing ever.

 

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So we want to see we had a global entry and I remember this

 

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because when we got to Sinai, our oldest daughter

 

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Global entry because she was sleeping,

 

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she has a globe entry is a picture of her knocked out.

 

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But there's so many.

 

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A welcome to travel

 

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Tuesday Happy Hour,

 

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where he interviewed dope

 

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people doing dope things

 

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from around the world.

 

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And then as you can see,

 

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I have a special co-host this season,

 

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My Queen.

 

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Tell them who you are, please.

 

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I'm Jackie.

 

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Okay. Okay.

 

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Jackie, would you do Jackie?

 

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Oh, I do quite a few things.

 

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Okay, let's step

 

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We go along.

 

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Today might be a long. Yes.

 

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I guess my biggest job

 

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is being his fiancee.

 

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Okay, that's.

 

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That's the best job

 

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I think this is hard work.

 

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This is hard work.

 

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I'll make it look good.

 

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He has really

 

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now nothing to talk about.

 

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Hard at work.

 

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We got two of the hardest working people

 

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on this screen right now, right?

 

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We got a doctor, and doctor

 

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can now tell us you are on what you do.

 

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You want to start.

 

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It is okay.

 

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My name is Alade McKen

 

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I am a Higher

 

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Education professional

 

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at a higher education institution

 

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where I work closely

 

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with students, faculty and staff.

 

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keep it real dry plain and simple

 

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My name is Dr.

 

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Sudhi  Mcken, and I'm an OBGYN

 

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Nice. Nice.

 

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So how did you tell me?

 

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Meet

 

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Yeah,

 

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well, we met in

 

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2003 2004

 

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and I met

 

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Sudhi here at Cornell University

 

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where she where she went to undergrad

 

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and I went to undergrad in Binghamton.

 

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And during that time, I was just

 

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traveling a lot, going from

 

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place to place.

 

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You party,

 

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you know, and I met her in her dorm room.

 

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Yes.

 

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I had just crossed

 

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into the most innovative

 

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sorority inc and, you know,

 

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a lot is in America.

 

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And we were getting ready

 

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to go to the party

 

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and I was sitting in the room

 

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and it was like

 

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having has like brothers

 

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running around the dorm.

 

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And they came

 

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you came in my room and I was like,

 

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there's

 

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and that's how we met.

 

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Wow.

 

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There's a man in my room.

 

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And now family

 

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lead more steps in me

 

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and made the first mobile back.

 

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What? What happened?

 

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You know,

 

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I'm reformed now, so I used be based

 

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in Detroit,

 

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where I've lived here with the mouth.

 

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So I was just,

 

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you know, talking crap and,

 

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you know, just,

 

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you know, just talking garbage

 

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and just inviting myself,

 

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you know, into the space, you know?

 

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And that's kind of how I move.

 

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I'm like, just walk in the spaces

 

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and act like I own it.

 

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So that's what I have now.

 

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It's kind of a long story,

 

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because at first we were just friends.

 

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And because of my proposal,

 

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I don't date any omegas.

 

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They're crazies.

 

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I was like, I can't talk to you.

 

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So, you know,

 

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we were friends, and we did other people,

 

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and then we reconnected.

 

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And so it was like over a series of years

 

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together.

 

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Yeah.

 

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But I think

 

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what is important about the story

 

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is that she was continuously in school

 

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and I went back home to work.

 

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So our relationship, whatever

 

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it was at that time, you know,

 

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the time was long distance

 

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for a long time.

 

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And then when she finally

 

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finished school,

 

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I left to go pursue my Ph.D.

 

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and I left the state.

 

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So we've pretty much been long distance

 

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for a very, very long time.

 

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You know,

 

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whether it be

 

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friendship relationship,

 

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you know, fooling around,

 

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you know,

 

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and even through engagement and

 

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then marriage.

 

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Do you think that helped strengthen

 

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your bond?

 

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Because you mentioned friendship

 

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a couple of times, right?

 

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Did the friendship

 

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become your basis for your relationship?

 

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Yeah, I would definitely say yes,

 

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especially because

 

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when you're not seeing a person

 

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every single day,

 

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you really have to talk to them a lot.

 

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And that kind of takes away

 

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the physical aspect of it,

 

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and it becomes more about

 

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getting to know the person.

 

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So I would definitely say yes,

 

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and I just made it.

 

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I feel like the years went by faster

 

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because whenever you would reunite

 

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it was just so much sweeter

 

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because you're like, Oh my gosh.

 

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Whereas, you know,

 

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when you see the person day

 

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in and day out, you know,

 

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you can really kind of

 

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take them for granted

 

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and so I think it was it

 

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definitely helps strengthen

 

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our relationship.

 

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You know, I would agree and say the same.

 

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I think a part of it was just

 

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the mere fact that,

 

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you know,

 

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we went through so many different things

 

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in our lives separately.

 

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And, you know, even if we weren't

 

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like really serious

 

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with each other,

 

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really engage in conversations,

 

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like I think life

 

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moments had us get closer together.

 

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So we was very supportive of each other

 

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when we went through

 

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a series of different things.

 

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You know,

 

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being one of my close

 

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friends passed in a way.

 

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She was there,

 

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she got injured

 

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and was like in a wheelchair.

 

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You know,

 

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it was like

 

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there was just so many different stories

 

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that we

 

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that we share that

 

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we were there to support each other,

 

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so to say the least.

 

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We were shooting in the gym, you know,

 

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with each other for real.

 

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So now that's super dope.

 

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I appreciate you

 

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bringing the drink tonight.

 

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It works. It works.

 

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I really enjoy

 

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So what?

 

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So a lot of you

 

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spoke about traveling a lot.

 

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What triggered

 

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you wanting to travel as much as you did?

 

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Yeah.

 

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So I wasn't a real big traveler.

 

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I could.

 

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And I always had,

 

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you know, inspirations to travel

 

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you know,

 

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just a local guy, you know,

 

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not even a neighborhood type.

 

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You know, friends never travel,

 

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never had any people

 

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who was just like traveling folks.

 

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But funny enough, my mother, she was

 

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she traveled very young,

 

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you know, from like the age of 14.

 

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She went to

 

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Ghana, was like her first trip

 

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and went

 

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and embedded herself with the Akon people

 

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and got initiated with the kind of tribe

 

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in Ghana

 

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and then Senegal and

 

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and then Nigeria and so on and so forth.

 

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And it was more so a cultural background

 

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that she gained a lot of

 

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knowledge and wisdom

 

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and understanding and identity

 

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in terms of her cultural

 

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experiences through travel.

 

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And then my sister's later down a line

 

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being dances, you know, and dance

 

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troupes, etc., traveled to Senegal, etc.

 

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But I never looked at them

 

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and never thought about them

 

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as someone who was right

 

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there, who can

 

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give me the tools to travel.

 

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And I was just like

 

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looking at my friends.

 

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So for me, the beginning of traveling was

 

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really just,

 

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you know, kind of leaving the state.

 

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Then there on was more so

 

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I guess my most meaningful trip

 

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was going to Kenya.

 

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And I went I was close with the group

 

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and in Brooklyn,

 

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you know,

 

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I was living in Brooklyn at the time.

 

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And they decided to cancel the trip

 

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because it was civil unrest in Kenya.

 

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And I was like, Why?

 

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And I was kind of gathering the troops up

 

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and my friends and everyone was like,

 

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I'm not going because they were scared.

 

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And my friend and I

 

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close friend Bernard,

 

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who was

 

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also my frat brother,

 

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he was like, Yo, let's just go.

 

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We'll figure it out.

 

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And we went

 

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and figured it out

 

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and kind of connected with some folks.

 

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We knew some folks,

 

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and it was just like real organic.

 

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And we did.

 

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We had the most amazing trip,

 

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like on the president's ground.

 

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We did so much.

 

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We were in the legal stuff.

 

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It was just like

 

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we it was like dangerous stuff.

 

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We were doing that.

 

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As I look back at it,

 

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we were just cracking and it was just

 

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we was just so excited

 

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to, you know, kids, the continent.

 

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You know,

 

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I think

 

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most black folks is just,

 

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you know, inspirations

 

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just to get back home. Right.

 

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So that was our journey. And we

 

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did like a Go Find Me and all

 

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this other stuff.

 

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And people supported

 

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us, supported our trip, and we went

 

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nice, nice and clean, which was

 

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I mean, I'm

 

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not sure

 

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there's a candle

 

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to be held next to that experience.

 

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You know,

 

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I always travel I

 

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my parents in my family

 

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from Sierra Leone.

 

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So we always went back home

 

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my dad sisters lived in London.

 

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My so travel to me was like

 

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I grew up doing it

 

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and I didn't realize that that wasn't my

 

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children didn't have passports.

 

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Like when I went to college,

 

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I met people that didn't have passports.

 

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No passport.

 

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Like that was weird to me

 

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because that's not how we grew up.

 

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And I don't know.

 

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I also I'm very big into astrology,

 

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so I'm a Sagittarius

 

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and we love to travel.

 

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It's like

 

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just put me on a plane anywhere.

 

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And so and school

 

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you know, I always wanted to do

 

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a study abroad, but

 

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because I was pre-med, I could.

 

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And so then

 

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when I went to medical school,

 

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I went and did work in India

 

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and, and Ghana,

 

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and I lived there for like a month

 

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each location.

 

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And I just loved it.

 

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Like any new experience, like put me,

 

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the airport is like my most

 

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amazing place to be

 

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because it's so many possibilities.

 

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Like people everywhere.

 

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I'm like, I wonder where they're going,

 

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what they're going to do.

 

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And so that was,

 

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I mean, it's like and me traveling,

 

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I guess when we started dating,

 

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I'm like, well, where are we going?

 

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Like, let's go here. Like, let's go.

 

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This place is so that place.

 

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And so I think that kind of also like,

 

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yeah, continue to spark a lot

 

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because I'm like,

 

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I don't stay in the United States. So

 

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know What was your first trip?

 

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What was your first trip together?

 

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Oh, my God, I remember that.

 

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Was it Belize?

 

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No,

 

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international.

 

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Either domestic or years together.

 

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Like, you guys were like, you know what?

 

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We're just not going

 

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I don't know what we're going to.

 

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And we know you didn't

 

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want to be a part of your relationship.

 

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Long distance, so not like a visit.

 

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

 

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You're you're strong

 

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respective places

 

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where but your first trip together.

 

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Oh, my God.

 

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I really don't remember

 

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why we decided to go together.

 

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Yeah, yeah.

 

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Well, no, not

 

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because we were visiting each other so.

 

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Oh, I mean, was it like Colorado?

 

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No, no,

 

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I think that was later down the line,

 

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but now I don't even know, really.

 

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Try to catch up to y'all now.

 

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Like, I think it was good.

 

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I think it was Belize, I think.

 

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Yeah, because if I could sit here

 

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and say

 

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that we actually like,

 

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planned to go somewhere together

 

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and, like,

 

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she had experience

 

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and it wasn't like someone was waiting

 

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or something like that.

 

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Right?

 

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Or something that was pulling us there.

 

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I think it would have to say

 

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I would say things that I can remember.

 

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We will use Belize because we shared

 

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an experience together.

 

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It wasn't like, I'm

 

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coming, you know,

 

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your friend is getting married

 

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or my friends getting married.

 

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I mean, there was a lot of that

 

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to me, like a lot of their lives

 

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and weddings.

 

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Mexico, like you know, a lot of them,

 

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I think

 

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for like just a trip for the two of us.

 

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I really I think it was Belize, I think.

 

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Yeah, I would say I would say

 

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that was because I was in Spain.

 

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Yeah, me too.

 

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Ray was I think he was

 

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this was quite the user residence.

 

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But yeah, we we we decided to go.

 

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The reason why I remember this trip

 

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as a trip

 

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that was just more like this, us,

 

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because

 

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we were

 

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just doing like

 

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real random

 

00:13:04:10 - 00:13:06:01

cliche like couples stuff

 

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like riding bikes together.

 

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It seemed like, you know what I'm saying?

 

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Hey, just,

 

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just doing stuff like,

 

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you know, like, yeah,

 

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we're going to go and,

 

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you know,

 

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go to

 

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the waterfall and cross over, though.

 

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That was somewhere else.

 

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No.

 

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Yeah, no, we did ride bikes in the water.

 

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We stayed in mostly think of even safe

 

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I think ocean but Belize

 

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I believe that was

 

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Belize was that final was really

 

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I went on the trip

 

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well you know the trips

 

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yeah she's

 

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very meticulous type A personality

 

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so that's good you know

 

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since you knows I can go back.

 

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No, no that's the one thing I know people

 

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somebody asked them to go like also

 

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does she pack your bag? He's like,

 

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oh my bags.

 

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He is very particular about his clothing.

 

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So I could never go back in my no,

 

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he would never be pleased

 

00:14:00:14 - 00:14:01:22

with whatever effectively.

 

00:14:01:22 - 00:14:02:15

What is this?

 

00:14:02:15 - 00:14:04:23

I don't wear this together.

 

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So he packs the bag,

 

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but then I do everything else.

 

00:14:08:23 - 00:14:09:13

No, I mean,

 

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and I think there's a reason why

 

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I I'm a B give it a voucher.

 

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So the reason why I think, you know,

 

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I would love to do things,

 

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but at the time, you know,

 

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I am the money.

 

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So I love planning stuff

 

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and carrying things and, and that.

 

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And for me, I just feel like

 

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if I don't have complete control right

 

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then I'm gonna just let go.

 

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And I'm and that's, that's

 

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why I'm a laid back kind of guy, too.

 

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But she's very good at planning and,

 

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you know, figuring it out.

 

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Ask me a couple of questions.

 

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I'm like, Yeah, sure, whatever we call.

 

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And then we just ride his ride away.

 

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She's a really good editor.

 

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Okay, so do you.

 

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So do you guys have, like,

 

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the most memorable trip

 

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that you guys have gone?

 

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So at least was the first

 

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you'll agree

 

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that this was your first trip together.

 

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Well,

 

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what was the one that's the

 

00:15:01:22 - 00:15:03:22

most is our most memorable?

 

00:15:03:22 - 00:15:04:13

Regardless

 

00:15:04:13 - 00:15:05:11

if it was like

 

00:15:05:11 - 00:15:08:09

Destination Wedding Somebody's Birthday.

 

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Yeah,

 

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I think we and we've

 

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had this discussion before

 

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and I think it changes.

 

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I, we so we got married so I would say to

 

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I would have to say pick two that

 

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so we went back to Freetown

 

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for Christmas, Sierra Leone

 

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and that's where he proposed.

 

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And then we got

 

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I had my traditional wedding

 

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that like an hour

 

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after I propose and got married,

 

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the same thing in Sierra Leone,

 

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like the whole thing,

 

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like the national wedding, whatever

 

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my mom knew my sister knew my brother.

 

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No, I didn't know.

 

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And he was traveling at that point

 

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that we had been dating

 

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for like six years or so, something long

 

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and he always used to be like,

 

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don't worry

 

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when it happens all the time, it's

 

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only going on like whatever you get.

 

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Like,

 

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you know, I was like,

 

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anyways, taking forever.

 

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So he was like,

 

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it doesn't matter

 

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because once I put the ring

 

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on, we're just going to get

 

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married, like, whatever.

 

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And I told her,

 

00:16:00:02 - 00:16:01:05

I said, we're going to get married.

 

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I said, You got to propose and

 

00:16:03:09 - 00:16:05:02

I'm going to propose you and

 

00:16:05:02 - 00:16:06:12

marry the same date, right?

 

00:16:06:12 - 00:16:07:17

So I can't do that.

 

00:16:07:17 - 00:16:08:07

I was like,

 

00:16:08:07 - 00:16:11:04

I so like before this happened,

 

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we there was like a flight deal

 

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to Italy, to Milan.

 

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So we had already booked our trip.

 

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We're going to Italy the march

 

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following that.

 

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So I didn't realize that

 

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that like Italy trip

 

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was essentially our honeymoon

 

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because we got married that December.

 

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So we got the traditional wedding.

 

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We came home

 

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and then literally just got married.

 

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And my mother in law's

 

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living room with my pastor,

 

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just our siblings,

 

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our parents and like two friends.

 

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So, like, the whole thing's

 

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like a two weeks,

 

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like the engagement and wedding.

 

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Two weeks.

 

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So I would say

 

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that was obviously a memorable trip.

 

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And then Italy was because

 

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it was like our honeymoon without us

 

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knowing that we were both the only one.

 

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And it was so it was just

 

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an amazing trip.

 

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Like some architecture, the food we went,

 

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we hiked to

 

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whatever I thought I was going to die.

 

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There was just

 

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crazy.

 

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Like it was so much fun, so beautiful.

 

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We bought

 

00:17:06:12 - 00:17:08:20

leather jackets, like in Florence,

 

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like it was a really nice, nice trip.

 

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We I was born out of control in Italy.

 

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Yeah, no, I didn't even know, though, is

 

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everything was cheaper, like.

 

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Yeah, we literally was eating,

 

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like, sandwiches

 

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and wine on the corner,

 

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you know, like $5 is like,

 

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I I just ate pizza and drank

 

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Chasin Espresso.

 

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I was amazing.

 

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Yeah, that's it.

 

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It was like, you.

 

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Yeah, whatever. And we made it work.

 

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But I think my most memorable trip was,

 

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you know, so

 

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it wasn't all the glamor and go,

 

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but I think it was just

 

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kind of meaningful.

 

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It was

 

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it was gonna,

 

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I like gonna let me see what

 

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we were planning to get married

 

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and got it right.

 

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We're having the wedding

 

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to have it wedding. Excuse me.

 

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We have the wedding in Ghana.

 

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So we already knew that was the plan.

 

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We

 

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I was serious about.

 

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I even got, like, my wedding band rings

 

00:18:01:08 - 00:18:02:07

before I can think

 

00:18:02:07 - 00:18:03:20

Ressemble one of the symbols

 

00:18:03:20 - 00:18:05:06

that I wanted to put on it.

 

00:18:05:06 - 00:18:08:12

And it was just like a series of steps.

 

00:18:08:12 - 00:18:09:03

So we were like,

 

00:18:09:03 - 00:18:10:00

I was going out there

 

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with a plan

 

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to call, see venues and talk to people

 

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and kind of connect the that

 

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and put it all together.

 

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And it was like a short trip

 

00:18:18:21 - 00:18:20:17

and but it was so dope

 

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because we made it work.

 

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He was out there hustling,

 

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trying to figure out what we want to,

 

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you know,

 

00:18:24:24 - 00:18:26:03

we have the wedding,

 

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and then we would just like to make

 

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something like vaccines.

 

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I had been Savanah

 

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before by myself and Artem,

 

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and he hadn't been there, so I was like,

 

00:18:33:09 - 00:18:34:09

Oh, we got to go to this.

 

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This is like

 

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we went to do there for a week

 

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and while we were looking at Vinnie's,

 

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I was trying to like show him

 

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the places that I had gone

 

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before that I loved.

 

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So it was like a

 

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really quick and dirty trip,

 

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but like, really it was nice

 

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and I think it was cool for me

 

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because I was just like

 

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everything for me.

 

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My trips,

 

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I like to have like some type

 

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educational experience,

 

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you know, something I'm learning,

 

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you know,

 

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some insight

 

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to where

 

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I'm going,

 

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you know, with the common

 

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folks, not like, you know,

 

00:19:01:13 - 00:19:02:23

just some random.

 

00:19:02:23 - 00:19:05:12

But I think that was kind of a trip

 

00:19:05:12 - 00:19:06:08

for me as well.

 

00:19:06:08 - 00:19:08:02

He looked awesome.

 

00:19:08:02 - 00:19:10:05

So now how did you guys have little ones?

 

00:19:10:05 - 00:19:11:08

How do you guys travel

 

00:19:11:08 - 00:19:12:02

with the little ones?

 

00:19:12:02 - 00:19:13:06

Like that

 

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takes a little more planning than just

 

00:19:15:23 - 00:19:17:18

your credit.

 

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So how was this trip? Yeah.

 

00:19:21:13 - 00:19:21:22

Yeah.

 

00:19:21:22 - 00:19:25:06

So, um,

 

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I mean, I was like, I'll say this.

 

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I always said

 

00:19:28:05 - 00:19:29:09

the kids are not going

 

00:19:29:09 - 00:19:29:16

to, like,

 

00:19:29:16 - 00:19:30:04

slow us back

 

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because I think a lot of

 

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young couples or couples

 

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that don't have children and like,

 

00:19:34:15 - 00:19:35:10

always afraid like,

 

00:19:35:10 - 00:19:36:21

oh my God, I love to travel.

 

00:19:36:21 - 00:19:38:10

I'm like, so we can still travel.

 

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Like,

 

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this is going to be a different trip

 

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to bring your baby with you.

 

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And that was our whole thing.

 

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We're like,

 

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well, we're, we're, we're going to go

 

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and choose is going to come with us.

 

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So now

 

00:19:46:14 - 00:19:47:12

we have two daughters,

 

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but when we had our first daughter

 

00:19:48:23 - 00:19:50:03

and Sandy,

 

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you know, they travel for free

 

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and so they're two.

 

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So we were like,

 

00:19:54:08 - 00:19:55:15

she's definitely coming everywhere

 

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because once they're over to you,

 

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that's a full seat, like a full adult

 

00:20:00:09 - 00:20:01:12

priced seat for a little.

 

00:20:01:12 - 00:20:03:09

But so right now

 

00:20:03:09 - 00:20:04:16

we're going to make use of this

 

00:20:05:22 - 00:20:07:05

so I think the

 

00:20:07:05 - 00:20:08:21

main thing is like realizing that.

 

00:20:08:21 - 00:20:09:23

So before,

 

00:20:09:23 - 00:20:10:19

like when I want to believe

 

00:20:10:19 - 00:20:12:01

we like to stay off the beaten

 

00:20:12:01 - 00:20:13:16

path and, you know,

 

00:20:13:16 - 00:20:16:12

we stayed in like a village that was like

 

00:20:16:12 - 00:20:19:00

closer to my African ancestors

 

00:20:19:00 - 00:20:19:24

and it was like,

 

00:20:19:24 - 00:20:21:24

you know, not as accessible,

 

00:20:21:24 - 00:20:23:18

but it was with just us.

 

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But then when we had a sign,

 

00:20:25:01 - 00:20:25:08

we were like,

 

00:20:25:08 - 00:20:25:16

okay, well,

 

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we can't really say

 

00:20:26:18 - 00:20:28:08

in some random place anymore.

 

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Like, it has to be,

 

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you know, either a smaller hotel

 

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that has amenities for children

 

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or, you know, some family

 

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friendly type place.

 

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Those, you know,

 

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where we stay became different.

 

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How we travel became different, like

 

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as far as, you know,

 

00:20:45:12 - 00:20:45:19

okay,

 

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we have to bring the travel stroller.

 

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We have to bring,

 

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you know, when I was breastfeeding.

 

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So I have to bring a cooler

 

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happening my pump.

 

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I have to find out if the hotel has

 

00:20:54:03 - 00:20:55:05

a kitchen's like a freeze.

 

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The breast milk, all these things

 

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that you don't really think about

 

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when it's just the two of you

 

00:21:00:21 - 00:21:02:18

obviously packing

 

00:21:02:18 - 00:21:03:10

a complete

 

00:21:03:10 - 00:21:04:23

that's like another podcast

 

00:21:04:23 - 00:21:06:16

like we can't do.

 

00:21:06:16 - 00:21:09:02

So we had a couple earlier

 

00:21:09:14 - 00:21:12:05

that mentioned the snack suitcase.

 

00:21:12:05 - 00:21:13:12

You guys do a snacks

 

00:21:13:12 - 00:21:15:20

in case we have like the snack bag

 

00:21:15:23 - 00:21:17:01

that we were bringing

 

00:21:17:01 - 00:21:18:11

is always a snack

 

00:21:18:11 - 00:21:19:15

that and then we would put

 

00:21:19:15 - 00:21:20:23

the other snacks in the suitcase

 

00:21:20:23 - 00:21:22:02

because there are things that your kids

 

00:21:22:02 - 00:21:24:16

a lot of there's a lot of steps

 

00:21:24:16 - 00:21:27:04

just to say the least.

 

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Right? Is a lot of steps.

 

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But we are like travelers, right?

 

00:21:32:00 - 00:21:34:15

So we're like, you know,

 

00:21:34:21 - 00:21:37:15

we want to make sure that we have

 

00:21:38:09 - 00:21:41:01

a thankful new life skip the line.

 

00:21:42:04 - 00:21:42:16

Oh, yes,

 

00:21:42:16 - 00:21:44:11

they appreciate being that pre-check.

 

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But what's the other one

 

00:21:45:06 - 00:21:47:12

by lunch program three days ago. Yeah.

 

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So I'm like,

 

00:21:48:11 - 00:21:49:08

you know, I'm

 

00:21:49:08 - 00:21:50:13

just like signing up on the road.

 

00:21:50:13 - 00:21:50:24

I'm signing up.

 

00:21:50:24 - 00:21:51:06

I was like,

 

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I need to sign up for this,

 

00:21:52:03 - 00:21:54:05

need to go to this and so global. And

 

00:21:55:14 - 00:21:57:15

so we were doing

 

00:21:57:16 - 00:21:57:24

like, I

 

00:21:57:24 - 00:21:59:18

think we went somewhere with her

 

00:21:59:18 - 00:22:02:03

and then we came back to global entry

 

00:22:02:03 - 00:22:02:17

and then it was

 

00:22:02:17 - 00:22:04:21

like she needs treatment as well.

 

00:22:06:12 - 00:22:08:14

So we actually have passports,

 

00:22:08:14 - 00:22:09:20

which is another joke to

 

00:22:09:20 - 00:22:11:03

because like just giving the child

 

00:22:11:03 - 00:22:12:05

a passport is like,

 

00:22:12:05 - 00:22:13:24

no, like when they're baby ever.

 

00:22:13:24 - 00:22:15:11

So it is like holding the baby up

 

00:22:15:11 - 00:22:17:03

and just like trying

 

00:22:18:17 - 00:22:20:01

the funniest thing ever.

 

00:22:20:01 - 00:22:21:22

So we want to see

 

00:22:21:22 - 00:22:24:03

we had a global entry and I remember this

 

00:22:24:09 - 00:22:25:15

because when we got to Sinai,

 

00:22:25:15 - 00:22:28:07

our oldest daughter

 

00:22:28:16 - 00:22:30:15

Global actually because she was sleeping.

 

00:22:30:15 - 00:22:32:23

So she has a globe and she did.

 

00:22:34:13 - 00:22:36:06

But there's so many steps

 

00:22:36:06 - 00:22:38:12

and there's so many things to consider

 

00:22:38:24 - 00:22:41:00

and okay and so forth.

 

00:22:41:00 - 00:22:42:08

And so I think

 

00:22:42:11 - 00:22:44:17

in our experience, we just was like

 

00:22:44:17 - 00:22:46:08

and we're just both way,

 

00:22:46:08 - 00:22:46:18

I guess

 

00:22:46:18 - 00:22:48:06

like hustlers, like we just be moving

 

00:22:48:06 - 00:22:49:17

and like going.

 

00:22:49:17 - 00:22:51:22

So I just I'm scared, just like kids.

 

00:22:51:22 - 00:22:53:06

I'll just go in

 

00:22:53:06 - 00:22:54:20

breaking it down to

 

00:22:54:20 - 00:22:56:21

what is only this, that and third

 

00:22:56:21 - 00:22:58:24

six science is always something.

 

00:22:58:24 - 00:23:00:14

Then you're like fearful

 

00:23:00:14 - 00:23:01:07

because you don't know

 

00:23:01:07 - 00:23:02:23

what to expect from the challenge.

 

00:23:02:23 - 00:23:03:22

First going to plane

 

00:23:03:22 - 00:23:05:09

and then you're like,

 

00:23:05:10 - 00:23:06:22

you know, it was this.

 

00:23:06:22 - 00:23:08:08

This is so many steps and

 

00:23:09:14 - 00:23:11:13

it's an experience

 

00:23:12:18 - 00:23:14:21

one thing that happens as I was

 

00:23:14:22 - 00:23:16:06

hilarious is when we brought

 

00:23:16:06 - 00:23:17:06

this idea to Saint Lucia,

 

00:23:17:06 - 00:23:18:24

I think she was six months

 

00:23:18:24 - 00:23:21:02

and it was Carnival

 

00:23:21:02 - 00:23:24:05

and I love a good carnival, good fit,

 

00:23:24:05 - 00:23:25:16

and I was like,

 

00:23:25:16 - 00:23:26:21

We cannot bring her back

 

00:23:26:21 - 00:23:28:13

the next time we come, you know,

 

00:23:28:13 - 00:23:29:11

we have to be back.

 

00:23:29:11 - 00:23:30:18

You know, they have bedtimes.

 

00:23:30:18 - 00:23:31:22

So yeah,

 

00:23:31:22 - 00:23:32:06

you know,

 

00:23:32:06 - 00:23:33:02

usually you're out

 

00:23:33:02 - 00:23:34:17

chillin at the hotel bar.

 

00:23:34:17 - 00:23:36:06

We have to throw up in the room.

 

00:23:36:06 - 00:23:36:24

So like now

 

00:23:36:24 - 00:23:38:23

your chillin in your hotel room,

 

00:23:38:23 - 00:23:40:13

like looking at all the people have fun.

 

00:23:40:13 - 00:23:43:13

So we brought her in at 7:00

 

00:23:43:13 - 00:23:44:08

but in the bed

 

00:23:44:08 - 00:23:45:01

because you don't want to keep

 

00:23:45:01 - 00:23:45:16

her guaranteed.

 

00:23:45:16 - 00:23:47:13

So they're not too cranky.

 

00:23:47:13 - 00:23:49:11

And, you know, we're just relaxing.

 

00:23:49:11 - 00:23:50:18

You can sit on the balcony

 

00:23:50:18 - 00:23:52:06

and look and I'm like, looking at people.

 

00:23:52:06 - 00:23:54:05

We're like hearing the parties.

 

00:23:54:05 - 00:23:55:03

And then the next morning

 

00:23:55:03 - 00:23:56:03

we're having breakfast and everyone's

 

00:23:56:03 - 00:23:58:10

coming in covered and we like being

 

00:23:58:13 - 00:23:59:12

like, now we must

 

00:24:01:04 - 00:24:02:18

be out over, bring

 

00:24:02:18 - 00:24:04:10

a grandparent

 

00:24:04:10 - 00:24:07:13

or like a family member, like as a,

 

00:24:08:03 - 00:24:09:03

as a babysitter.

 

00:24:09:03 - 00:24:09:11

Be like,

 

00:24:09:11 - 00:24:09:23

Look,

 

00:24:09:23 - 00:24:12:23

you got this free trip to your kids.

 

00:24:13:08 - 00:24:16:09

So we did that.

 

00:24:16:16 - 00:24:19:23

All the go to was the go to third adults.

 

00:24:20:11 - 00:24:22:14

My mom my mom. Sure.

 

00:24:22:14 - 00:24:24:05

You know, in kids, my mother

 

00:24:24:05 - 00:24:24:21

actually taking care here,

 

00:24:24:21 - 00:24:25:12

my grandmother.

 

00:24:25:12 - 00:24:27:03

So it's like everybody,

 

00:24:27:03 - 00:24:28:13

we come from these families.

 

00:24:28:13 - 00:24:30:01

Everyone's taking care of each other

 

00:24:30:01 - 00:24:31:10

and helping each other. With each other.

 

00:24:31:10 - 00:24:33:24

But her mom is definitely the O.G.

 

00:24:33:24 - 00:24:35:05

She yells at them

 

00:24:35:05 - 00:24:36:10

and then we would go on trips

 

00:24:36:10 - 00:24:39:10

with other young parents with

 

00:24:39:11 - 00:24:40:14

like we have a bunch of friends

 

00:24:40:14 - 00:24:42:19

who have kids at around the same age.

 

00:24:42:19 - 00:24:45:14

And so if my mom can't come, then

 

00:24:45:14 - 00:24:47:24

one of our friend's mothers would watch

 

00:24:48:00 - 00:24:49:10

because they were all like babies

 

00:24:49:10 - 00:24:51:04

and they're like, just put them to sleep.

 

00:24:51:04 - 00:24:52:16

And then obviously we'll just sit here

 

00:24:52:16 - 00:24:53:07

and make sure, like,

 

00:24:53:07 - 00:24:55:05

everybody's okay really wakes up.

 

00:24:55:05 - 00:24:56:05

So that's how to

 

00:24:56:05 - 00:24:57:00

if you have friends

 

00:24:57:00 - 00:24:58:22

that also have kids around the same age

 

00:24:58:22 - 00:25:01:05

and we would all like we all took them.

 

00:25:01:05 - 00:25:02:13

I'm glad you came on this trip with me.

 

00:25:02:13 - 00:25:02:20

It was like

 

00:25:02:20 - 00:25:04:20

the moms took the daughters to Miami

 

00:25:05:21 - 00:25:06:05

and we

 

00:25:06:05 - 00:25:07:02

stayed at the fountain

 

00:25:07:02 - 00:25:08:01

blue with the kids.

 

00:25:08:01 - 00:25:09:18

So, so so we were

 

00:25:09:18 - 00:25:11:20

so the all you guys were

 

00:25:11:20 - 00:25:13:02

all the fathers were at a

 

00:25:13:02 - 00:25:15:08

at a conclave party.

 

00:25:15:20 - 00:25:19:07

So we the the mothers were in Miami

 

00:25:19:19 - 00:25:22:17

so we're going to go out to so then we go

 

00:25:22:21 - 00:25:23:21

and we see the children

 

00:25:23:21 - 00:25:27:04

in like cabanas or a VIP, right?

 

00:25:27:17 - 00:25:29:13

Like infants like them. Yeah.

 

00:25:29:13 - 00:25:31:03

They have the glass side glass.

 

00:25:31:03 - 00:25:32:14

And, you know,

 

00:25:32:14 - 00:25:33:24

we're roughing it, you know,

 

00:25:33:24 - 00:25:36:04

Omega's style, just like just in it.

 

00:25:36:05 - 00:25:38:10

So we was just

 

00:25:38:10 - 00:25:39:15

it was good that was a good

 

00:25:39:15 - 00:25:41:12

that was a good book, too.

 

00:25:41:12 - 00:25:44:21

But we also went with both of our parents

 

00:25:44:21 - 00:25:46:09

to Disney World, which is a whole

 

00:25:46:09 - 00:25:48:14

nother podcast.

 

00:25:48:14 - 00:25:49:02

But

 

00:25:50:04 - 00:25:52:02

that is a whole nother trip.

 

00:25:52:02 - 00:25:55:19

But we went with them, and that was cool

 

00:25:55:22 - 00:25:56:09

as well

 

00:25:56:09 - 00:25:58:12

to have all our grandparents

 

00:25:58:12 - 00:25:59:14

and involvement.

 

00:25:59:17 - 00:26:00:19

Okay, okay.

 

00:26:00:19 - 00:26:03:02

What have you learned about each other

 

00:26:04:00 - 00:26:05:15

as a couple

 

00:26:05:15 - 00:26:07:15

based on your travel experience

 

00:26:07:15 - 00:26:08:07

or your travel

 

00:26:08:07 - 00:26:12:09

personality, behavior, patterns, habits?

 

00:26:13:16 - 00:26:15:09

I feel like we travel very well together,

 

00:26:15:09 - 00:26:16:07

very similar.

 

00:26:16:07 - 00:26:19:24

Like we get up early like some people,

 

00:26:20:14 - 00:26:22:05

I mean, I know vacations to relax,

 

00:26:22:05 - 00:26:23:21

but we also it's to also explore.

 

00:26:23:21 - 00:26:26:24

So we like to get up early, you know,

 

00:26:27:13 - 00:26:30:00

to see things but then also not have it

 

00:26:30:00 - 00:26:30:24

like to pack.

 

00:26:30:24 - 00:26:32:07

Like you don't want to plan everything

 

00:26:32:07 - 00:26:34:01

for every single day.

 

00:26:34:02 - 00:26:35:12

So we learned that about each other.

 

00:26:35:12 - 00:26:37:22

I think also that we're pretty laid back

 

00:26:37:23 - 00:26:39:14

like it doesn't take much like

 

00:26:39:14 - 00:26:41:11

we don't need a lot.

 

00:26:41:23 - 00:26:44:08

I'd like one or two educational things,

 

00:26:44:08 - 00:26:45:02

some like

 

00:26:45:02 - 00:26:46:20

and then something like fun

 

00:26:46:20 - 00:26:47:05

and then we can

 

00:26:47:05 - 00:26:50:03

just like lay on the beach and like sleep

 

00:26:50:24 - 00:26:51:07

well.

 

00:26:51:08 - 00:26:52:21

So we might try to

 

00:26:52:21 - 00:26:55:04

I think there's a healthy balance

 

00:26:55:04 - 00:26:56:00

between us too.

 

00:26:57:20 - 00:26:58:08

And I think

 

00:26:58:08 - 00:26:59:03

it's more

 

00:26:59:03 - 00:27:00:21

because of our personality types,

 

00:27:00:21 - 00:27:01:15

you know,

 

00:27:01:18 - 00:27:03:14

I guess the things that keep you together

 

00:27:03:14 - 00:27:05:23

kind of travel with that as well.

 

00:27:06:03 - 00:27:08:23

So you go to these places

 

00:27:08:23 - 00:27:09:14

and then you're like,

 

00:27:09:14 - 00:27:11:03

because I'm pretty much laid back,

 

00:27:11:03 - 00:27:12:09

you know, not trust them.

 

00:27:12:09 - 00:27:13:02

So I'm like, All right,

 

00:27:13:02 - 00:27:14:09

so whatever you want to do,

 

00:27:14:09 - 00:27:15:20

let's go with the flow.

 

00:27:15:20 - 00:27:17:13

And then I'm not like,

 

00:27:17:13 - 00:27:19:18

you know, how go with some folks.

 

00:27:19:18 - 00:27:20:15

You travel together,

 

00:27:20:15 - 00:27:22:00

the crew and is always that one person

 

00:27:22:00 - 00:27:23:03

that's like,

 

00:27:23:11 - 00:27:25:13

yeah, I don't know where we go in.

 

00:27:25:13 - 00:27:26:14

I what's happening,

 

00:27:26:14 - 00:27:27:08

you know,

 

00:27:27:08 - 00:27:29:23

one of those folks, they're not my trips

 

00:27:31:10 - 00:27:34:01

to like I'm never home or yeah those hold

 

00:27:34:10 - 00:27:35:18

so I'm not like that. Right.

 

00:27:35:18 - 00:27:37:01

So I try to

 

00:27:37:01 - 00:27:37:24

yeah she's not like that either.

 

00:27:37:24 - 00:27:40:04

So we just go with the flow and

 

00:27:41:07 - 00:27:42:05

was also good is

 

00:27:42:05 - 00:27:43:22

that we kind of find things on the fly

 

00:27:43:22 - 00:27:46:11

kind of we shift gears really easily and

 

00:27:47:06 - 00:27:49:02

but we do know when we tap out,

 

00:27:49:02 - 00:27:51:20

you know, it's like, I love, my gosh,

 

00:27:51:20 - 00:27:53:22

the beach is like, I'm not moving,

 

00:27:53:22 - 00:27:56:04

you know, it's me.

 

00:27:57:00 - 00:28:00:06

So I switch gears a little bit, you know.

 

00:28:00:18 - 00:28:02:07

What has your experiences

 

00:28:02:07 - 00:28:04:07

been driving while black

 

00:28:04:07 - 00:28:07:12

as individual travelers and as a couple

 

00:28:09:14 - 00:28:10:21

I think it depends on

 

00:28:10:21 - 00:28:15:02

like where we were and oh my God,

 

00:28:15:02 - 00:28:15:14

this happened.

 

00:28:15:14 - 00:28:17:05

So one of the things this is

 

00:28:17:05 - 00:28:19:01

this is like kind of embarrassing

 

00:28:19:01 - 00:28:20:14

but so so

 

00:28:20:14 - 00:28:22:01

I like to upgrade my tickets

 

00:28:22:01 - 00:28:22:22

because my knees hurt

 

00:28:22:22 - 00:28:26:03

and I can't deal with a lot right now

 

00:28:26:03 - 00:28:27:20

to sell any kind of way.

 

00:28:27:20 - 00:28:29:24

And I'll have my kids.

 

00:28:30:01 - 00:28:31:08

One time we were going,

 

00:28:31:08 - 00:28:32:19

where are we going with my mom?

 

00:28:32:19 - 00:28:34:06

To my dad.

 

00:28:34:06 - 00:28:34:20

We're going back to

 

00:28:34:20 - 00:28:36:05

we are going to Freetown

 

00:28:36:05 - 00:28:37:05

for my grandmother's funeral.

 

00:28:37:05 - 00:28:38:07

This is another trip

 

00:28:38:07 - 00:28:39:09

we were already married

 

00:28:39:09 - 00:28:41:00

and I was pregnant

 

00:28:41:00 - 00:28:42:10

and they were like,

 

00:28:42:10 - 00:28:43:23

okay, you know, all the business

 

00:28:43:23 - 00:28:45:23

class customers. So I'm coming.

 

00:28:45:23 - 00:28:47:11

And this guy is like trying

 

00:28:47:11 - 00:28:49:13

to push the show off the way I'm like,

 

00:28:49:13 - 00:28:50:12

What are you doing?

 

00:28:50:12 - 00:28:51:05

And they're like, Yeah,

 

00:28:51:05 - 00:28:52:02

this is the business class.

 

00:28:52:02 - 00:28:52:10

I was like,

 

00:28:52:10 - 00:28:53:14

I know that's the ticket

 

00:28:53:14 - 00:28:55:13

that we have to move out of the way.

 

00:28:55:13 - 00:28:57:11

And this has happened from people

 

00:28:57:11 - 00:28:58:15

that worked the airlines

 

00:28:58:15 - 00:29:00:09

to always, like, one, are walking up.

 

00:29:00:09 - 00:29:01:05

They're like, No, no, no,

 

00:29:01:05 - 00:29:02:23

this is not for you is I have a reason.

 

00:29:02:23 - 00:29:03:17

Yeah.

 

00:29:03:17 - 00:29:04:01

So like,

 

00:29:04:01 - 00:29:06:12

this line is for first class passengers.

 

00:29:06:12 - 00:29:08:18

I'm like, I know that reacts.

 

00:29:08:18 - 00:29:11:12

So that happens way more than

 

00:29:12:00 - 00:29:13:14

I can count before we go anywhere

 

00:29:13:14 - 00:29:14:13

like in the airport.

 

00:29:14:13 - 00:29:16:04

And I'm like, why is this keep happening?

 

00:29:16:04 - 00:29:17:09

Like, is it just because, like,

 

00:29:17:09 - 00:29:19:10

we don't we look like pretty normal.

 

00:29:19:10 - 00:29:20:20

We're not like high maintenance.

 

00:29:20:20 - 00:29:21:18

Like, we're just like

 

00:29:21:18 - 00:29:23:17

so that people always assume

 

00:29:23:17 - 00:29:25:12

and I'm like, I don't understand.

 

00:29:25:12 - 00:29:25:23

I was like, well,

 

00:29:25:23 - 00:29:27:04

if you had asked, you know,

 

00:29:27:04 - 00:29:28:01

what kind of ticket I had,

 

00:29:28:01 - 00:29:28:19

I would have told you.

 

00:29:28:19 - 00:29:30:10

And they were like, Oh, sorry.

 

00:29:30:10 - 00:29:32:13

So that traveling on Black,

 

00:29:32:13 - 00:29:33:20

that happens a lot,

 

00:29:33:20 - 00:29:35:09

like with people just assuming.

 

00:29:35:09 - 00:29:36:14

And it's very upsetting

 

00:29:36:14 - 00:29:39:00

because it's mostly for the plane

 

00:29:39:20 - 00:29:42:00

to come coming back.

 

00:29:42:00 - 00:29:43:11

So you get that same treatment.

 

00:29:43:11 - 00:29:45:14

No, no.

 

00:29:45:14 - 00:29:46:19

Yeah, yeah.

 

00:29:46:19 - 00:29:47:22

It's always

 

00:29:47:22 - 00:29:50:12

I noticed you were always stateside

 

00:29:51:10 - 00:29:54:05

and it'd be people who were black and or

 

00:29:54:08 - 00:29:55:15

you know, and that's the funny thing.

 

00:29:55:15 - 00:29:57:18

So frustrate and, and just be like,

 

00:29:58:11 - 00:30:00:20

no, the lines of like, no, answers.

 

00:30:00:22 - 00:30:02:16

I literally will go on like tracksuits.

 

00:30:02:16 - 00:30:04:11

Like, we're, like, chilling, like, yeah,

 

00:30:04:11 - 00:30:05:17

we just cool and not going.

 

00:30:05:17 - 00:30:06:17

A lot of they don't know.

 

00:30:06:17 - 00:30:08:15

They're like, oh, look at this guy.

 

00:30:08:15 - 00:30:10:13

He's so laid back and relaxed.

 

00:30:10:13 - 00:30:11:00

He can't be.

 

00:30:11:00 - 00:30:11:24

I'm like, I don't understand.

 

00:30:11:24 - 00:30:12:22

Like, what is it about it?

 

00:30:12:22 - 00:30:14:06

Why is this happening to us?

 

00:30:14:06 - 00:30:16:08

Actually, I and I guess

 

00:30:16:08 - 00:30:17:20

I'm like, otherwise

 

00:30:17:20 - 00:30:18:24

because I don't understand

 

00:30:18:24 - 00:30:21:01

why you would assume, like,

 

00:30:21:01 - 00:30:22:05

I can read, like,

 

00:30:22:05 - 00:30:24:02

I know what this line is for.

 

00:30:24:02 - 00:30:25:09

So that happens a lot.

 

00:30:26:08 - 00:30:28:13

And then I guess depending on like,

 

00:30:28:13 - 00:30:29:09

we remember

 

00:30:29:09 - 00:30:29:22

like when you went to

 

00:30:29:22 - 00:30:33:05

Kenya versus Turkey, like how black was.

 

00:30:33:05 - 00:30:35:20

So like like in Europe,

 

00:30:36:07 - 00:30:38:07

you don't even realize that you're black,

 

00:30:38:07 - 00:30:39:11

which is strange.

 

00:30:39:11 - 00:30:41:18

Like, there's no, like, you American.

 

00:30:41:18 - 00:30:42:07

Yeah.

 

00:30:42:07 - 00:30:43:05

Like it's more

 

00:30:43:05 - 00:30:44:06

because you're American,

 

00:30:44:06 - 00:30:46:05

not like because you're a black person.

 

00:30:46:05 - 00:30:48:14

And so I felt like I'm like,

 

00:30:48:14 - 00:30:49:18

wow, Europe is very different.

 

00:30:49:18 - 00:30:51:20

It's not like a race thing.

 

00:30:52:05 - 00:30:54:15

It's more of like, okay, we're European.

 

00:30:54:15 - 00:30:55:19

You guys are American.

 

00:30:55:19 - 00:30:57:05

So like, let's see.

 

00:30:57:05 - 00:30:58:22

I speak a little bit of French, Spanish,

 

00:30:58:22 - 00:31:01:02

so one time we were in Morocco,

 

00:31:01:02 - 00:31:03:11

and because I spoke

 

00:31:03:11 - 00:31:05:12

in French, they were way more receptive.

 

00:31:05:23 - 00:31:06:23

But then when I asked them

 

00:31:06:23 - 00:31:08:01

in English, they were like, Oh,

 

00:31:08:01 - 00:31:09:04

my excuse me.

 

00:31:09:04 - 00:31:11:17

I'm like, This is so interesting.

 

00:31:11:17 - 00:31:12:02

Yeah.

 

00:31:12:02 - 00:31:14:01

So I don't know if it's like American,

 

00:31:14:01 - 00:31:15:10

like they don't like Americans

 

00:31:15:10 - 00:31:16:05

or whatever it is,

 

00:31:16:05 - 00:31:18:03

but it's just very interesting

 

00:31:18:03 - 00:31:19:03

when you leave.

 

00:31:19:03 - 00:31:20:13

Yeah, because I think in Milan

 

00:31:20:13 - 00:31:22:17

it was accents, like, it was like French.

 

00:31:22:23 - 00:31:23:04

Yeah.

 

00:31:23:04 - 00:31:26:05

They were like, Do you speak French?

 

00:31:26:18 - 00:31:28:07

It's like this is something

 

00:31:28:07 - 00:31:28:22

I needed to say.

 

00:31:28:22 - 00:31:30:06

Like, they didn't say English. Yeah.

 

00:31:30:06 - 00:31:30:22

It was like,

 

00:31:30:22 - 00:31:32:06

it was like, Oh, what language?

 

00:31:32:06 - 00:31:32:15

You speak?

 

00:31:32:15 - 00:31:33:17

Like they didn't even think, oh, like,

 

00:31:33:17 - 00:31:35:04

where are you from? Right?

 

00:31:35:04 - 00:31:36:00

More so.

 

00:31:36:00 - 00:31:37:23

Not if you were black. Or etc..

 

00:31:37:23 - 00:31:39:04

Yeah, that's good.

 

00:31:39:04 - 00:31:41:10

How we thought you guys were African and

 

00:31:41:19 - 00:31:42:04

or where

 

00:31:43:16 - 00:31:44:09

there was some people

 

00:31:44:09 - 00:31:45:02

that were from there

 

00:31:45:02 - 00:31:46:11

that, you know, look like us.

 

00:31:46:11 - 00:31:48:04

So that was the thing, too.

 

00:31:48:04 - 00:31:51:06

It's very it is very, very interesting.

 

00:31:51:06 - 00:31:52:06

When I was in Turkey,

 

00:31:52:06 - 00:31:54:02

I was kind of interesting too.

 

00:31:54:02 - 00:31:54:05

Know,

 

00:31:54:08 - 00:31:54:17

they thought

 

00:31:54:17 - 00:31:57:20

I was a rapper or something like that.

 

00:31:57:20 - 00:31:58:14

Maybe I was like, Yo,

 

00:31:58:14 - 00:31:59:14

take a picture then, right?

 

00:31:59:14 - 00:32:01:21

Yeah, right, right.

 

00:32:01:21 - 00:32:03:04

Wow, this is real.

 

00:32:03:04 - 00:32:06:23

So, so I had

 

00:32:07:07 - 00:32:08:19

some, you know, mixed emotions

 

00:32:08:19 - 00:32:10:13

and feelings and experiences, right?

 

00:32:10:13 - 00:32:11:15

Because

 

00:32:11:19 - 00:32:13:02

I'm always like

 

00:32:13:02 - 00:32:14:12

thinking about my identity

 

00:32:14:12 - 00:32:16:00

and how I show up in some places.

 

00:32:16:00 - 00:32:17:09

Just because of who I am,

 

00:32:17:09 - 00:32:18:14

no matter where I am.

 

00:32:18:14 - 00:32:20:07

So it's just always super

 

00:32:20:07 - 00:32:21:16

conscious about that.

 

00:32:21:16 - 00:32:23:03

So some things I might miss or something

 

00:32:23:03 - 00:32:24:12

I might be super hypersensitive

 

00:32:24:12 - 00:32:26:06

to, some might see things

 

00:32:26:06 - 00:32:27:17

before they even have.

 

00:32:27:17 - 00:32:28:13

Right.

 

00:32:29:00 - 00:32:31:16

And then you have the folks who are like,

 

00:32:31:22 - 00:32:33:07

and I'm always feeling

 

00:32:33:07 - 00:32:34:13

weird about people,

 

00:32:34:13 - 00:32:34:20

you know,

 

00:32:34:20 - 00:32:36:03

even when they're super nice, I'm like,

 

00:32:37:11 - 00:32:39:05

I don't know, race

 

00:32:39:05 - 00:32:40:16

is doing that because I'm black, right?

 

00:32:40:16 - 00:32:41:08

So, you know,

 

00:32:41:08 - 00:32:43:01

and I think that that's a part of it,

 

00:32:43:01 - 00:32:44:03

too, right?

 

00:32:44:03 - 00:32:46:00

They see some black holes where,

 

00:32:46:00 - 00:32:46:23

you know,

 

00:32:46:23 - 00:32:48:24

who would travel in business class or,

 

00:32:48:24 - 00:32:50:01

you know, etc.

 

00:32:50:01 - 00:32:52:06

Because I think the last year we so

 

00:32:52:22 - 00:32:54:09

we had the children in business

 

00:32:54:09 - 00:32:56:17

class suit to check this one out.

 

00:32:57:11 - 00:32:59:01

We have two babies.

 

00:32:59:01 - 00:33:01:02

Yeah. We're big overseas, right?

 

00:33:01:02 - 00:33:01:10

They got

 

00:33:01:10 - 00:33:01:19

they little

 

00:33:01:19 - 00:33:03:17

headphones on tablets

 

00:33:03:17 - 00:33:06:14

and they just chilling I don't know.

 

00:33:06:14 - 00:33:07:13

And then I know that everybody

 

00:33:07:13 - 00:33:10:14

was just like walking by like damn right.

 

00:33:11:09 - 00:33:12:00

They were like

 

00:33:12:00 - 00:33:12:19

like them

 

00:33:12:19 - 00:33:14:22

little babies doing their thing.

 

00:33:15:08 - 00:33:16:06

But I love it.

 

00:33:16:06 - 00:33:19:14

But, but, you know, it's

 

00:33:19:14 - 00:33:21:22

I think traveling while black is, is

 

00:33:21:22 - 00:33:23:01

there's a lot of mixed emotions

 

00:33:23:01 - 00:33:23:20

that come with it.

 

00:33:23:20 - 00:33:25:08

Planning on where you are

 

00:33:25:08 - 00:33:27:13

and what you're doing now.

 

00:33:27:15 - 00:33:28:23

You guys find it that

 

00:33:31:04 - 00:33:32:15

think you alluded to it.

 

00:33:32:15 - 00:33:34:10

I don't want to like kind of press

 

00:33:34:10 - 00:33:36:17

the issue but like is it

 

00:33:36:17 - 00:33:38:15

you're seeing as true

 

00:33:38:15 - 00:33:40:11

different here than we are

 

00:33:40:11 - 00:33:42:15

when they're wherever else you go

 

00:33:42:15 - 00:33:43:09

and then

 

00:33:43:09 - 00:33:45:12

not even just on top of that like

 

00:33:45:12 - 00:33:48:23

African country sometimes genius

 

00:33:48:23 - 00:33:49:13

for sure.

 

00:33:49:13 - 00:33:50:09

Yeah

 

00:33:51:22 - 00:33:54:02

know Kenya I know we talked about our

 

00:33:54:06 - 00:33:55:17

but what happened in Kenya.

 

00:33:55:17 - 00:33:56:12

Yeah,

 

00:33:57:18 - 00:33:58:07

Kenya.

 

00:33:58:07 - 00:34:00:22

See, Kenya is like is over.

 

00:34:00:22 - 00:34:02:18

I think there's only like 44 different

 

00:34:02:18 - 00:34:04:17

tribes, right?

 

00:34:04:17 - 00:34:07:23

So you would see folks who look

 

00:34:08:12 - 00:34:10:21

very much so like you and I write,

 

00:34:11:05 - 00:34:11:15

you know,

 

00:34:11:15 - 00:34:12:10

like folks

 

00:34:12:10 - 00:34:14:06

that different complexions and,

 

00:34:14:06 - 00:34:16:02

and I think there's a cultural thing

 

00:34:16:02 - 00:34:17:13

that's there as well.

 

00:34:17:13 - 00:34:18:22

But then

 

00:34:20:16 - 00:34:22:08

you know, I think for me

 

00:34:22:08 - 00:34:23:06

I think it was more

 

00:34:23:06 - 00:34:25:02

so the American part of it,

 

00:34:25:02 - 00:34:25:12

you know,

 

00:34:25:12 - 00:34:26:21

because there's always the assumption

 

00:34:26:21 - 00:34:28:04

that comes with it.

 

00:34:28:04 - 00:34:30:08

But then it's also like black Americans.

 

00:34:30:08 - 00:34:32:03

So I think that there's another layer

 

00:34:32:03 - 00:34:33:15

to that, right?

 

00:34:33:15 - 00:34:35:15

Because it's like skin.

 

00:34:35:15 - 00:34:37:21

So we're not kinfolk, right?

 

00:34:38:03 - 00:34:40:13

So you, my brother,

 

00:34:40:17 - 00:34:42:05

but you are,

 

00:34:42:05 - 00:34:43:03

you know, rich

 

00:34:43:03 - 00:34:44:20

or you have something, right?

 

00:34:44:20 - 00:34:45:08

So then there's

 

00:34:45:08 - 00:34:47:03

a different type of treatment.

 

00:34:47:03 - 00:34:48:19

And then they always try to pull the wool

 

00:34:48:19 - 00:34:49:18

over your eyes, right?

 

00:34:49:18 - 00:34:51:06

Then you can get away with.

 

00:34:51:06 - 00:34:52:18

So that's another thing, too.

 

00:34:52:18 - 00:34:55:21

So there's this there's this like this,

 

00:34:56:05 - 00:34:57:03

the intersections

 

00:34:57:03 - 00:34:57:11

with you

 

00:34:57:11 - 00:35:00:24

being a black American in a continent,

 

00:35:01:12 - 00:35:01:22

you know,

 

00:35:01:22 - 00:35:02:20

where primarily

 

00:35:02:20 - 00:35:04:19

people have the same complexion issue.

 

00:35:04:19 - 00:35:07:06

But then after seeing cultural,

 

00:35:07:06 - 00:35:08:24

you know, background as you

 

00:35:08:24 - 00:35:09:18

then it gets a little

 

00:35:09:18 - 00:35:11:23

I think it's a little different.

 

00:35:11:23 - 00:35:13:01

I remember when you

 

00:35:13:01 - 00:35:14:07

when you came back from the trip

 

00:35:14:07 - 00:35:15:11

saying like that

 

00:35:15:11 - 00:35:17:21

he basically felt more comfortable

 

00:35:17:22 - 00:35:19:23

in Turkey than in Kenya.

 

00:35:20:03 - 00:35:21:01

And I was like, really?

 

00:35:22:01 - 00:35:22:19

Yeah.

 

00:35:22:19 - 00:35:24:17

And he's and it's like him and Brennan,

 

00:35:24:17 - 00:35:26:09

he was like, yeah, it was like,

 

00:35:26:09 - 00:35:26:17

you know,

 

00:35:26:17 - 00:35:27:21

nobody looked at them like

 

00:35:27:21 - 00:35:29:05

what are you doing here?

 

00:35:29:05 - 00:35:31:15

You know, this is an American thing.

 

00:35:31:15 - 00:35:32:10

Whereas in Kenya,

 

00:35:32:10 - 00:35:34:21

I think that kind of the being American

 

00:35:35:12 - 00:35:39:10

also is also was the the the parents.

 

00:35:39:15 - 00:35:41:20

So now I'm a heavier guy, right?

 

00:35:42:09 - 00:35:44:12

They do the most of the people in Kenya.

 

00:35:44:21 - 00:35:45:14

Right.

 

00:35:45:14 - 00:35:47:18

And you know, these guys statues

 

00:35:47:19 - 00:35:48:14

very different from that.

 

00:35:48:14 - 00:35:50:18

So I look like some anomaly.

 

00:35:50:18 - 00:35:52:14

I'm like way like, oh, who's this guy?

 

00:35:52:14 - 00:35:54:02

That's that's one thing.

 

00:35:54:02 - 00:35:56:06

Then I have tattoos, right?

 

00:35:56:08 - 00:35:57:10

That's another thing.

 

00:35:57:10 - 00:35:59:03

And then, you know, I'm also branded.

 

00:35:59:03 - 00:36:00:12

That's a whole nother thing.

 

00:36:00:12 - 00:36:02:21

And then and then I have hair on my head.

 

00:36:02:21 - 00:36:05:05

This is like my third set a lot.

 

00:36:05:05 - 00:36:07:01

So it's like every time I have locks

 

00:36:07:01 - 00:36:08:24

then they look at me like this

 

00:36:08:24 - 00:36:09:21

guy got hair.

 

00:36:09:21 - 00:36:11:13

And then there's also the depiction of

 

00:36:11:13 - 00:36:12:13

behind hair,

 

00:36:12:13 - 00:36:13:05

you know,

 

00:36:13:05 - 00:36:14:05

history in terms of

 

00:36:14:05 - 00:36:16:03

like some revolutionary canyons.

 

00:36:16:03 - 00:36:18:01

They look as Rastafarians,

 

00:36:18:01 - 00:36:20:03

you know, in terms of their background.

 

00:36:20:03 - 00:36:22:04

And they are looking at me

 

00:36:22:04 - 00:36:24:06

like those guys are Mad Men, right?

 

00:36:24:08 - 00:36:24:18

You know,

 

00:36:24:18 - 00:36:25:09

because you got to have

 

00:36:25:09 - 00:36:26:01

something wrong with you.

 

00:36:26:01 - 00:36:26:22

You have here. Yeah.

 

00:36:28:01 - 00:36:28:24

But I love

 

00:36:28:24 - 00:36:30:24

my has grown, so it's a little different.

 

00:36:30:24 - 00:36:33:02

So now it's like these mixed emotions.

 

00:36:33:02 - 00:36:35:15

So people do look at you

 

00:36:35:15 - 00:36:36:10

differently

 

00:36:36:10 - 00:36:38:09

you know, just from out of the gate,

 

00:36:38:09 - 00:36:40:10

like looking at you like, oh, guy,

 

00:36:40:10 - 00:36:41:07

who's this?

 

00:36:42:03 - 00:36:43:05

Oh, wow.

 

00:36:43:05 - 00:36:44:07

Do you notice a difference

 

00:36:44:07 - 00:36:46:20

in how people respond to you

 

00:36:46:20 - 00:36:48:08

when you're by yourself

 

00:36:48:08 - 00:36:48:23

versus

 

00:36:48:23 - 00:36:50:24

when you're with your wife and kids?

 

00:36:53:02 - 00:36:55:09

Yeah, I think for us,

 

00:36:55:09 - 00:36:56:09

the people

 

00:36:56:09 - 00:36:58:18

everyone sees the children first

 

00:36:58:18 - 00:37:00:04

when we chat with children

 

00:37:00:04 - 00:37:01:19

because they look at the children

 

00:37:01:19 - 00:37:02:20

and they're like Oh,

 

00:37:02:20 - 00:37:03:08

you know, it's

 

00:37:03:08 - 00:37:05:06

like all the babies, right?

 

00:37:05:06 - 00:37:08:04

Um, I don't know if that is a benefit

 

00:37:08:04 - 00:37:09:06

for us or anything like that.

 

00:37:09:06 - 00:37:10:05

I don't think, you know,

 

00:37:10:05 - 00:37:10:11

I mean,

 

00:37:10:11 - 00:37:11:11

I think you particularly like

 

00:37:11:11 - 00:37:13:18

as a black man, versus as a black man.

 

00:37:13:18 - 00:37:14:02

Yeah,

 

00:37:14:02 - 00:37:15:20

I think, I think, I think it's different,

 

00:37:15:20 - 00:37:17:01

you know,

 

00:37:17:08 - 00:37:19:07

I think, I think it's not very much so

 

00:37:19:07 - 00:37:20:01

different because

 

00:37:22:10 - 00:37:23:18

I think there's a different dynamics.

 

00:37:23:18 - 00:37:24:13

I'm a father,

 

00:37:24:13 - 00:37:25:06

you know,

 

00:37:25:08 - 00:37:27:24

rather than just a black man, know.

 

00:37:27:24 - 00:37:28:18

So that's

 

00:37:28:18 - 00:37:30:05

that's a whole nother piece of it.

 

00:37:30:05 - 00:37:32:02

So people talk to me certain way.

 

00:37:32:02 - 00:37:33:07

They might look at me a certain way.

 

00:37:33:07 - 00:37:35:14

There might be some deference thing

 

00:37:35:14 - 00:37:36:16

that might happen there.

 

00:37:36:16 - 00:37:36:22

You know,

 

00:37:36:22 - 00:37:38:01

in terms of family dynamics,

 

00:37:38:01 - 00:37:41:00

I think it's a cultural thing as well.

 

00:37:41:00 - 00:37:42:15

So there's a little bit different,

 

00:37:42:15 - 00:37:43:09

I think, which,

 

00:37:43:09 - 00:37:43:13

you know,

 

00:37:43:13 - 00:37:46:11

I don't really see that as often,

 

00:37:47:06 - 00:37:49:07

but I think it's there

 

00:37:50:21 - 00:37:51:18

How about you?

 

00:37:51:20 - 00:37:53:01

Do you feel like

 

00:37:53:01 - 00:37:55:04

you take different precautions

 

00:37:55:05 - 00:37:58:02

or you are responded to differently

 

00:37:58:06 - 00:37:59:19

when you're with your husband?

 

00:37:59:19 - 00:38:02:17

Rather than when you travel alone?

 

00:38:02:17 - 00:38:03:12

I don't think so.

 

00:38:03:12 - 00:38:05:16

I think the world is very

 

00:38:06:11 - 00:38:08:12

they don't consider black women

 

00:38:09:02 - 00:38:10:21

like a threat as much.

 

00:38:10:21 - 00:38:11:15

I feel like they just

 

00:38:11:15 - 00:38:12:15

look at you like, oh, whatever.

 

00:38:12:15 - 00:38:14:09

Because I don't look I look young.

 

00:38:14:09 - 00:38:15:15

I'm like unassuming.

 

00:38:15:15 - 00:38:16:08

So I feel like people

 

00:38:16:08 - 00:38:17:21

don't really pay much attention to me

 

00:38:17:21 - 00:38:19:04

when I'm by myself.

 

00:38:19:04 - 00:38:20:14

But if I have my kids,

 

00:38:20:14 - 00:38:21:22

then they pay more attention.

 

00:38:21:22 - 00:38:22:12

Like you said,

 

00:38:22:12 - 00:38:23:03

they're like,

 

00:38:23:07 - 00:38:24:02

oh, yeah,

 

00:38:24:02 - 00:38:24:21

like when I'm by myself,

 

00:38:24:21 - 00:38:25:10

I feel like people

 

00:38:25:10 - 00:38:26:09

don't really

 

00:38:26:13 - 00:38:27:21

like notice anything

 

00:38:27:21 - 00:38:29:07

but what the kids are always like.

 

00:38:29:07 - 00:38:31:06

Oh, how old are they? Are they 20?

 

00:38:31:06 - 00:38:31:11

Yeah.

 

00:38:31:11 - 00:38:34:04

They all engage with her way more.

 

00:38:34:04 - 00:38:35:18

Yeah, with children

 

00:38:35:18 - 00:38:37:12

than they were with me.

 

00:38:37:12 - 00:38:38:15

But I'm not afraid.

 

00:38:38:15 - 00:38:42:09

I walk on person, you know, come to they.

 

00:38:42:21 - 00:38:46:11

Me or not, I might not come over here

 

00:38:48:14 - 00:38:49:04

yeah.

 

00:38:49:04 - 00:38:51:15

Wow. So thank you for sharing that.

 

00:38:51:15 - 00:38:52:11

And,

 

00:38:52:21 - 00:38:53:10

you know,

 

00:38:53:10 - 00:38:54:04

it's really important

 

00:38:54:04 - 00:38:55:22

that we understand that,

 

00:38:55:22 - 00:38:56:23

you know, travel

 

00:38:56:23 - 00:38:58:06

while black is a thing,

 

00:38:58:06 - 00:38:59:03

not just driving

 

00:38:59:03 - 00:39:00:20

while black in the States.

 

00:39:00:20 - 00:39:01:14

It's, it's

 

00:39:01:14 - 00:39:03:06

travel black because,

 

00:39:03:06 - 00:39:03:21

you know,

 

00:39:03:21 - 00:39:05:10

last season we had

 

00:39:05:10 - 00:39:07:10

I had guests, specific women

 

00:39:07:10 - 00:39:09:04

who in certain parts of the country

 

00:39:09:04 - 00:39:10:04

they would never go back

 

00:39:10:04 - 00:39:13:05

because how women were kind of like

 

00:39:13:06 - 00:39:15:10

objectified. Right.

 

00:39:15:10 - 00:39:17:14

And not just women, just black women.

 

00:39:17:14 - 00:39:18:10

Because

 

00:39:19:01 - 00:39:20:10

in certain parts of the country,

 

00:39:20:10 - 00:39:22:10

black women are seen as exotic.

 

00:39:22:10 - 00:39:22:17

Right.

 

00:39:22:17 - 00:39:23:19

So, you know,

 

00:39:23:19 - 00:39:25:02

some people feel like,

 

00:39:25:02 - 00:39:28:00

you know, I can holla and reaching right?

 

00:39:28:04 - 00:39:29:11

Oh, my goodness.

 

00:39:29:11 - 00:39:30:14

Listen. Yeah.

 

00:39:30:14 - 00:39:32:02

The catcalls, the

 

00:39:32:02 - 00:39:34:06

the unnecessary comments.

 

00:39:34:14 - 00:39:35:09

I feel like when I

 

00:39:35:09 - 00:39:37:10

when I'm by myself, there's so much

 

00:39:37:10 - 00:39:38:17

more I'm subjected to

 

00:39:39:17 - 00:39:40:12

together

 

00:39:40:12 - 00:39:41:06

and my

 

00:39:41:06 - 00:39:43:12

traveling or walking to the bodega.

 

00:39:43:12 - 00:39:45:06

Right, right, right.

 

00:39:45:06 - 00:39:47:06

Yeah, that's true.

 

00:39:47:06 - 00:39:48:17

That is true.

 

00:39:49:10 - 00:39:51:00

And so now we're going to

 

00:39:51:00 - 00:39:53:19

kind of switch gears again.

 

00:39:53:19 - 00:39:54:15

We've all

 

00:39:54:15 - 00:39:55:22

and you guys are still together.

 

00:39:55:22 - 00:39:59:05

So, you know, after the pandemic, the

 

00:40:00:20 - 00:40:03:07

graduation job, right?

 

00:40:03:21 - 00:40:07:13

After six years, our whole warranty

 

00:40:08:18 - 00:40:10:19

is right

 

00:40:10:19 - 00:40:13:14

now that now that all of that is

 

00:40:14:09 - 00:40:15:08

kind of

 

00:40:15:08 - 00:40:16:18

come to where we are today,

 

00:40:16:18 - 00:40:18:20

what is your new normal of life

 

00:40:18:20 - 00:40:21:04

as a family traveling mom

 

00:40:22:24 - 00:40:25:01

masks Walmart?

 

00:40:25:01 - 00:40:26:06

Same thing.

 

00:40:26:06 - 00:40:26:16

You know,

 

00:40:26:16 - 00:40:27:21

I had a different experience

 

00:40:27:21 - 00:40:28:17

during the pandemic.

 

00:40:28:17 - 00:40:30:07

She was really in the trenches of it

 

00:40:30:07 - 00:40:33:03

all, you know, really face for, you know,

 

00:40:33:09 - 00:40:34:02

facing it.

 

00:40:34:02 - 00:40:37:06

You know, in all of this iterations

 

00:40:37:23 - 00:40:38:24

me, I was more so

 

00:40:38:24 - 00:40:40:10

I was in the house right?

 

00:40:40:10 - 00:40:42:08

I was in the house teaching classes.

 

00:40:42:08 - 00:40:45:03

I was, you know, doing my arm and stuff.

 

00:40:45:03 - 00:40:45:19

And

 

00:40:47:05 - 00:40:49:23

I, I have way more anxiety

 

00:40:49:24 - 00:40:52:11

being around a bunch of people

 

00:40:53:10 - 00:40:54:17

than she does

 

00:40:54:17 - 00:40:56:08

because she was in the thick of it.

 

00:40:56:08 - 00:40:57:09

She was like unprotected.

 

00:40:57:09 - 00:40:59:09

I was I'm not used to wearing

 

00:40:59:09 - 00:41:01:19

a mask and stuff. I was in the house.

 

00:41:01:19 - 00:41:05:23

So that was a that is still something

 

00:41:05:23 - 00:41:07:22

I think that affects me,

 

00:41:07:22 - 00:41:10:07

whether I'm conscious of it or not

 

00:41:10:07 - 00:41:11:16

in some cases,

 

00:41:11:16 - 00:41:12:01

because it is

 

00:41:12:01 - 00:41:14:04

just like the anxiety around,

 

00:41:14:04 - 00:41:16:20

you know, feeling like lack then.

 

00:41:16:20 - 00:41:18:09

So that's one thing.

 

00:41:18:09 - 00:41:21:03

Then also just the children, you know,

 

00:41:21:10 - 00:41:22:16

we were already

 

00:41:22:16 - 00:41:23:19

hypersensitive about

 

00:41:23:19 - 00:41:26:14

just how dirty things are on your show,

 

00:41:26:14 - 00:41:28:01

which is cleaning everything

 

00:41:28:01 - 00:41:29:18

before they touch everything

 

00:41:29:18 - 00:41:31:07

and they touch everything.

 

00:41:31:07 - 00:41:33:24

So then that's another part is just like

 

00:41:34:14 - 00:41:36:24

making sure that we're protecting them

 

00:41:36:24 - 00:41:38:17

and keeping them, you know,

 

00:41:40:04 - 00:41:40:11

out of

 

00:41:40:11 - 00:41:41:15

harm's way, you know,

 

00:41:41:15 - 00:41:43:17

and that's just another layer, right?

 

00:41:43:17 - 00:41:46:07

Because it's because of the pandemic that

 

00:41:46:17 - 00:41:47:03

because you go

 

00:41:47:03 - 00:41:49:06

always want, you know, we will be in

 

00:41:50:12 - 00:41:51:02

Sierra Leone

 

00:41:51:02 - 00:41:52:11

and I have my daughter on my show

 

00:41:52:11 - 00:41:55:08

always trying to keep on my shoulder

 

00:41:55:08 - 00:41:56:15

and it's like, yo,

 

00:41:56:15 - 00:41:56:24

Chuck,

 

00:41:56:24 - 00:41:58:24

somebody will snatch your child right

 

00:41:58:24 - 00:42:01:01

so yeah, they were like, don't care.

 

00:42:01:01 - 00:42:01:10

Okay.

 

00:42:01:10 - 00:42:03:23

I'm like, I want to be gone.

 

00:42:04:07 - 00:42:05:12

So, you know,

 

00:42:05:12 - 00:42:07:03

these things are in the back of my head

 

00:42:07:03 - 00:42:09:11

as I travel with my children.

 

00:42:09:23 - 00:42:11:00

But then it's like now it's

 

00:42:11:00 - 00:42:13:06

that plus the pandemic right now

 

00:42:13:13 - 00:42:15:12

is the unseen, right?

 

00:42:15:12 - 00:42:18:17

So we're looking at people and records

 

00:42:18:17 - 00:42:20:24

they are right and trying to be

 

00:42:21:14 - 00:42:23:00

so that's so that's a

 

00:42:23:00 - 00:42:24:01

that's an adjustment

 

00:42:24:01 - 00:42:26:12

just being like super sensitive,

 

00:42:26:21 - 00:42:28:11

but not to the point where it's crippling

 

00:42:28:11 - 00:42:29:08

you, right?

 

00:42:29:08 - 00:42:30:16

Yeah. Yeah.

 

00:42:30:16 - 00:42:31:02

Because that's where

 

00:42:31:02 - 00:42:33:11

I'm going to follow up with is like,

 

00:42:33:11 - 00:42:35:01

you know, you guys were good at

 

00:42:35:01 - 00:42:36:08

just kind of figuring out

 

00:42:36:08 - 00:42:38:18

places to go and going there

 

00:42:38:18 - 00:42:39:10

you know,

 

00:42:39:10 - 00:42:40:22

as your travel planning

 

00:42:40:22 - 00:42:42:14

since your trip planner. Right.

 

00:42:42:14 - 00:42:46:03

Has that just gone off the rails

 

00:42:46:03 - 00:42:48:20

now that you have to, like check for?

 

00:42:49:05 - 00:42:50:16

Do they need tests?

 

00:42:50:16 - 00:42:52:24

They need vaccination requirements.

 

00:42:53:09 - 00:42:54:02

You know,

 

00:42:54:02 - 00:42:55:02

like, for example, we

 

00:42:55:02 - 00:42:55:23

were supposed to go to

 

00:42:57:08 - 00:42:58:09

Saint Lucia

 

00:42:58:09 - 00:42:59:16

and in order to get Saint Lucia,

 

00:42:59:16 - 00:43:00:22

you got to go to

 

00:43:01:13 - 00:43:03:19

church in Tobago.

 

00:43:03:19 - 00:43:06:05

And you had so Sunday,

 

00:43:06:15 - 00:43:07:17

so down

 

00:43:07:17 - 00:43:09:06

we couldn't even go in our church.

 

00:43:09:06 - 00:43:10:10

And so like,

 

00:43:10:10 - 00:43:10:18

you know,

 

00:43:10:18 - 00:43:12:03

what's that planning a little bit

 

00:43:12:03 - 00:43:13:08

like since you're like

 

00:43:13:08 - 00:43:14:20

the A-type got to make sure.

 

00:43:14:20 - 00:43:15:23

Yeah,

 

00:43:15:23 - 00:43:17:07

well, you know, I'm Czech

 

00:43:17:07 - 00:43:19:17

so we we went to Saint Croix

 

00:43:19:17 - 00:43:23:01

and I read that site like 35 times.

 

00:43:23:01 - 00:43:23:21

So it's like

 

00:43:23:21 - 00:43:25:01

you have to submit the stuff

 

00:43:25:01 - 00:43:25:17

to the website.

 

00:43:25:17 - 00:43:27:08

Then the website it sends you an email

 

00:43:27:08 - 00:43:28:05

and then if you're clear,

 

00:43:28:05 - 00:43:29:00

then you can go.

 

00:43:29:00 - 00:43:29:13

But actually

 

00:43:29:13 - 00:43:31:12

within this amount of time and it's like,

 

00:43:31:12 - 00:43:33:00

so is this like a lot of reading

 

00:43:33:00 - 00:43:34:20

and rereading or do you need a test?

 

00:43:34:20 - 00:43:37:03

You need your vaccination

 

00:43:38:09 - 00:43:39:21

so it's honestly just like

 

00:43:39:21 - 00:43:40:22

figuring out, you know,

 

00:43:40:22 - 00:43:41:16

what do you need

 

00:43:41:16 - 00:43:42:24

and do you have to like some places

 

00:43:42:24 - 00:43:43:18

you can't even go

 

00:43:43:18 - 00:43:44:16

because you have to quarantine

 

00:43:44:16 - 00:43:45:03

for like

 

00:43:45:03 - 00:43:46:06

ten days

 

00:43:46:06 - 00:43:46:21

and like, well,

 

00:43:46:21 - 00:43:47:17

we're not even going to be there

 

00:43:47:17 - 00:43:48:19

that long.

 

00:43:48:23 - 00:43:50:06

So it narrows down

 

00:43:50:06 - 00:43:51:17

where you can actually go.

 

00:43:51:17 - 00:43:52:04

Yeah,

 

00:43:52:17 - 00:43:54:00

but there are so

 

00:43:54:00 - 00:43:56:02

and then that also kind of made me

 

00:43:56:02 - 00:43:58:17

think about like places in the US, like

 

00:43:58:17 - 00:44:00:13

exploring more of the United States

 

00:44:00:13 - 00:44:01:05

or the U.S.

 

00:44:01:05 - 00:44:01:24

Virgin Islands,

 

00:44:01:24 - 00:44:03:10

which is how we ended up at Saint

 

00:44:03:10 - 00:44:05:01

Laurent because, you know, nowhere else,

 

00:44:05:01 - 00:44:07:17

we couldn't really go anywhere

 

00:44:07:17 - 00:44:10:14

but luckily we have access to testing

 

00:44:10:14 - 00:44:14:03

is pretty easy and vaccinated.

 

00:44:14:03 - 00:44:16:03

So like those things that are helpful

 

00:44:16:03 - 00:44:17:17

and now a lot of places are letting

 

00:44:17:17 - 00:44:19:14

you kind of go.

 

00:44:21:02 - 00:44:22:12

But it's really just like

 

00:44:22:12 - 00:44:23:14

researching what you need

 

00:44:23:14 - 00:44:24:16

before you can go

 

00:44:24:16 - 00:44:26:16

before you buy your ticket.

 

00:44:26:17 - 00:44:27:18

And then being open

 

00:44:27:18 - 00:44:28:22

to getting there

 

00:44:28:22 - 00:44:30:22

and switch it out right now.

 

00:44:31:14 - 00:44:33:17

So I think we're really good at that

 

00:44:33:17 - 00:44:34:16

because I think what was a snake

 

00:44:34:16 - 00:44:36:08

oil was like

 

00:44:36:14 - 00:44:37:23

Oh, what's going on here?

 

00:44:37:23 - 00:44:38:05

You know,

 

00:44:38:05 - 00:44:39:13

because it's like you don't know,

 

00:44:39:13 - 00:44:40:10

you know, the process,

 

00:44:40:10 - 00:44:41:10

what they want to know,

 

00:44:41:10 - 00:44:43:05

how it's going to go down,

 

00:44:44:00 - 00:44:46:14

just because we went to Jamaica

 

00:44:46:18 - 00:44:49:01

and they literally change

 

00:44:49:01 - 00:44:50:15

the curfew on us while we were there.

 

00:44:50:15 - 00:44:53:01

The other like a resort.

 

00:44:53:10 - 00:44:54:17

Luckily, we were at a resort

 

00:44:54:17 - 00:44:56:05

so everything we needed was there.

 

00:44:56:05 - 00:44:57:05

But like,

 

00:44:57:05 - 00:44:58:22

you know, Jamaica, like you go

 

00:44:58:22 - 00:45:00:12

you want to go to Down

 

00:45:00:12 - 00:45:01:11

River Falls,

 

00:45:01:11 - 00:45:01:24

you want to

 

00:45:02:00 - 00:45:03:09

also want to experience the nightlife

 

00:45:03:09 - 00:45:04:23

to an extent. Right.

 

00:45:04:23 - 00:45:07:08

And the pandemic, I think Sundays

 

00:45:07:20 - 00:45:09:20

you could be on the street at 3:00.

 

00:45:09:23 - 00:45:12:19

That's crazy. At 3:00.

 

00:45:12:19 - 00:45:14:12

So there's not a lot at the end

 

00:45:14:12 - 00:45:15:23

during the week.

 

00:45:15:23 - 00:45:17:02

And so,

 

00:45:17:02 - 00:45:17:15

you know,

 

00:45:17:15 - 00:45:17:24

I mean,

 

00:45:17:24 - 00:45:20:00

we went during their Independence Day.

 

00:45:20:10 - 00:45:20:21

All right.

 

00:45:20:21 - 00:45:21:08

Well,

 

00:45:21:18 - 00:45:24:00

not do anything for you there recently.

 

00:45:24:08 - 00:45:26:20

Yeah. Yeah, we couldn't do nothing.

 

00:45:26:20 - 00:45:29:00

And so it was just one of those where,

 

00:45:30:08 - 00:45:32:01

you know, like it's it's a it's

 

00:45:32:01 - 00:45:33:07

a it's a huge adjustment.

 

00:45:33:07 - 00:45:35:06

Like we went to Aruba

 

00:45:35:06 - 00:45:37:10

and it was a 10 p.m.

 

00:45:37:10 - 00:45:39:06

curfew. Yeah.

 

00:45:39:06 - 00:45:40:23

And we went for a year or a new year

 

00:45:40:23 - 00:45:41:12

New Year's.

 

00:45:41:12 - 00:45:44:01

So they had extended on New Year's Eve.

 

00:45:44:01 - 00:45:46:12

They extended it to 11 1 a.m..

 

00:45:46:12 - 00:45:47:09

Yeah. Okay.

 

00:45:47:09 - 00:45:48:21

But that only gave you enough time

 

00:45:48:21 - 00:45:49:10

to ball.

 

00:45:49:10 - 00:45:50:16

Drop all that and run

 

00:45:50:16 - 00:45:54:06

back to a cab to get back

 

00:45:54:12 - 00:45:54:23

in.

 

00:45:54:23 - 00:45:56:10

And the cab drivers were sure

 

00:45:56:10 - 00:45:59:18

they were like, we do not want their five

 

00:45:59:18 - 00:46:01:01

right. They have.

 

00:46:01:01 - 00:46:02:21

Yeah. Oh, my goodness.

 

00:46:02:21 - 00:46:04:15

You adjusted.

 

00:46:04:15 - 00:46:06:17

Wow. Yeah, yeah.

 

00:46:06:18 - 00:46:07:16

So, so,

 

00:46:07:16 - 00:46:10:04

so give us, leave us with some tips.

 

00:46:10:04 - 00:46:12:11

Tips us parents tips, travelers

 

00:46:12:20 - 00:46:14:00

tips of paths

 

00:46:14:00 - 00:46:15:14

that travel with their kids,

 

00:46:15:14 - 00:46:15:23

you know,

 

00:46:15:23 - 00:46:16:07

and I mean

 

00:46:16:07 - 00:46:17:15

tips as a couple,

 

00:46:17:15 - 00:46:18:15

we always forget that

 

00:46:18:15 - 00:46:20:14

this season is couples goals.

 

00:46:20:14 - 00:46:22:19

We go back live from them in

 

00:46:24:13 - 00:46:25:09

person

 

00:46:25:24 - 00:46:29:16

saying that they're like

 

00:46:29:16 - 00:46:30:02

me.

 

00:46:30:02 - 00:46:32:10

My mind is on travel by myself

 

00:46:32:11 - 00:46:34:18

a couple we back. Yeah. You going out?

 

00:46:35:05 - 00:46:35:15

Well that's

 

00:46:35:15 - 00:46:36:21

why you're both there together

 

00:46:36:21 - 00:46:38:19

and so you can like, you know

 

00:46:38:19 - 00:46:41:03

listen for the kids

 

00:46:41:03 - 00:46:44:06

the kids leave early leave early

 

00:46:44:06 - 00:46:46:03

because I am notorious

 

00:46:46:03 - 00:46:47:16

for trying to get places like right

 

00:46:47:16 - 00:46:49:19

before we have to be there.

 

00:46:49:20 - 00:46:52:02

I might look at lack of experience.

 

00:46:52:08 - 00:46:55:11

We live close to JFK or go easy

 

00:46:55:11 - 00:46:56:06

on my kids. Right?

 

00:46:56:06 - 00:46:58:03

There is like some minutes away.

 

00:46:58:03 - 00:46:59:07

We don't have the rest.

 

00:46:59:07 - 00:47:00:11

But when you have children,

 

00:47:00:11 - 00:47:01:19

you have to leave early.

 

00:47:01:19 - 00:47:03:18

You have to like hours.

 

00:47:03:18 - 00:47:06:04

I work and just sit in a lounge and wait.

 

00:47:06:11 - 00:47:07:20

As you know,

 

00:47:07:20 - 00:47:09:22

you have to like break down the stroller,

 

00:47:09:23 - 00:47:10:22

take all the stuff,

 

00:47:10:22 - 00:47:12:14

put it in security, and then, you know,

 

00:47:12:14 - 00:47:13:21

the kids are having meltdowns.

 

00:47:13:21 - 00:47:16:11

Yeah, it's early or is late or whatever.

 

00:47:16:11 - 00:47:18:11

If they just in a new space or place

 

00:47:18:11 - 00:47:19:04

and they have

 

00:47:19:04 - 00:47:19:17

so make sure

 

00:47:19:17 - 00:47:20:14

you give yourself

 

00:47:20:14 - 00:47:21:03

enough time

 

00:47:21:03 - 00:47:22:23

notice to lounge

 

00:47:22:23 - 00:47:26:00

if you are able to get lounge.

 

00:47:26:01 - 00:47:26:24

Yes.

 

00:47:27:02 - 00:47:29:21

Your person sitting in the waiting area,

 

00:47:30:16 - 00:47:34:08

you can bring a lounge like you have to,

 

00:47:34:09 - 00:47:35:21

you know, you know, it's funny.

 

00:47:35:21 - 00:47:37:15

I remember sidebar real quick.

 

00:47:37:15 - 00:47:39:21

When you taste a little bit

 

00:47:39:21 - 00:47:41:18

different life like, whoa,

 

00:47:41:18 - 00:47:43:06

these are different.

 

00:47:43:08 - 00:47:43:22

Yeah,

 

00:47:43:22 - 00:47:46:00

this is it's a different experience.

 

00:47:46:00 - 00:47:48:02

I like we can get to the airport

 

00:47:48:02 - 00:47:49:06

whatever everybody's

 

00:47:49:06 - 00:47:49:22

I'm drinking

 

00:47:49:22 - 00:47:51:18

even so we're looking for lounges

 

00:47:51:18 - 00:47:52:10

and all that stuff

 

00:47:52:10 - 00:47:53:19

just to make sure that we're straight

 

00:47:53:19 - 00:47:55:12

and the kids are comfortable. Yeah.

 

00:47:55:12 - 00:47:56:23

And they're going into everything

 

00:47:58:12 - 00:47:59:13

so anyway,

 

00:47:59:13 - 00:48:00:02

so that's

 

00:48:00:02 - 00:48:01:06

one thing

 

00:48:01:06 - 00:48:01:16

that I think

 

00:48:01:16 - 00:48:03:19

and leave early get lounge access

 

00:48:04:04 - 00:48:06:04

we make a list like, you know,

 

00:48:06:06 - 00:48:07:20

what do you what do your children need?

 

00:48:07:20 - 00:48:10:01

Their children's medications,

 

00:48:10:01 - 00:48:12:14

you know, and what can you buy there?

 

00:48:12:14 - 00:48:14:12

Why do you have to bring

 

00:48:14:12 - 00:48:16:14

three bags of diapers

 

00:48:16:14 - 00:48:17:16

or can you bring one

 

00:48:17:16 - 00:48:18:16

and then buy something?

 

00:48:18:16 - 00:48:21:05

You rent a stroller and a bag.

 

00:48:21:06 - 00:48:23:03

Can you do things like, you know,

 

00:48:23:03 - 00:48:24:08

do you need to bring sheets

 

00:48:24:08 - 00:48:25:15

or just a pillow?

 

00:48:25:15 - 00:48:26:09

And these things

 

00:48:26:09 - 00:48:28:03

are you believe it or not,

 

00:48:28:03 - 00:48:28:10

you know,

 

00:48:28:10 - 00:48:30:08

places are very

 

00:48:30:08 - 00:48:32:06

up to par in terms of supporting,

 

00:48:32:06 - 00:48:33:18

you know, people travel children.

 

00:48:33:18 - 00:48:35:14

So a lot of things

 

00:48:35:14 - 00:48:37:08

you can get in a lot of places

 

00:48:37:08 - 00:48:37:16

and places

 

00:48:37:16 - 00:48:39:12

where you just bring your own bedding,

 

00:48:39:12 - 00:48:40:23

bring a lot of Clorox

 

00:48:40:23 - 00:48:43:09

wipes, Lysol to wipe down the furniture.

 

00:48:44:09 - 00:48:47:13

If you're going to bring your own bedding

 

00:48:47:13 - 00:48:49:01

I mean, as as couples do,

 

00:48:49:01 - 00:48:50:12

I would say also planning to go in

 

00:48:50:12 - 00:48:51:23

knowing what your partner likes

 

00:48:51:23 - 00:48:53:03

and what they don't give you.

 

00:48:53:03 - 00:48:54:03

A partner is not like

 

00:48:54:03 - 00:48:55:04

that likes to wake up

 

00:48:55:04 - 00:48:57:01

early, don't plan a 7 a.m.

 

00:48:57:01 - 00:48:58:14

excursion like you know

 

00:48:58:14 - 00:48:59:14

give people grace,

 

00:48:59:14 - 00:49:00:04

let them do

 

00:49:00:04 - 00:49:02:13

what makes you feel as their customers

 

00:49:02:13 - 00:49:04:02

and be patient as well.

 

00:49:04:02 - 00:49:04:17

Yeah,

 

00:49:04:17 - 00:49:05:23

because there's there's

 

00:49:05:23 - 00:49:07:05

always a part of the trip

 

00:49:07:05 - 00:49:08:16

where there's like a question mark

 

00:49:08:16 - 00:49:09:14

when this will come.

 

00:49:09:14 - 00:49:10:10

It's like there's always

 

00:49:10:10 - 00:49:13:17

that one moment, like, what do we do?

 

00:49:14:07 - 00:49:16:15

How when what am I wearing?

 

00:49:16:15 - 00:49:19:00

The right is always one of those moments.

 

00:49:19:11 - 00:49:23:09

So try to, I guess, be very clear

 

00:49:23:09 - 00:49:24:18

because like things happening

 

00:49:24:18 - 00:49:25:12

like myself

 

00:49:25:12 - 00:49:26:23

I'm just kind of checked out

 

00:49:26:23 - 00:49:27:24

most of the time.

 

00:49:27:24 - 00:49:30:04

So I'm just like where we go.

 

00:49:30:04 - 00:49:30:14

I mean, like,

 

00:49:30:14 - 00:49:32:13

I remember Emily, I told them

 

00:49:32:13 - 00:49:33:15

they're going hiking.

 

00:49:33:15 - 00:49:35:18

Yeah, I was know I didn't hear me

 

00:49:35:18 - 00:49:36:06

where she's

 

00:49:36:06 - 00:49:37:02

probably mentioned it

 

00:49:37:02 - 00:49:37:14

as like

 

00:49:37:14 - 00:49:39:15

when I tell me like we're going hiking,

 

00:49:40:08 - 00:49:40:16

you know,

 

00:49:41:19 - 00:49:42:11

it's like

 

00:49:42:11 - 00:49:44:01

a legit like

 

00:49:44:01 - 00:49:45:16

I got some nice cakes on you know,

 

00:49:45:16 - 00:49:47:02

I can't wear this.

 

00:49:47:02 - 00:49:49:03

I was like, yo, I was.

 

00:49:49:03 - 00:49:51:03

So we had to buy hiking shoes

 

00:49:51:03 - 00:49:51:23

on the road.

 

00:49:51:23 - 00:49:52:22

Yeah, yeah.

 

00:49:52:22 - 00:49:53:19

And then I was like,

 

00:49:53:19 - 00:49:54:19

I was like,

 

00:49:54:19 - 00:49:57:02

I told you you're going outside, right?

 

00:49:57:11 - 00:49:59:18

And she got the whole book bag.

 

00:49:59:18 - 00:50:01:18

She's, you know, drive fit on.

 

00:50:01:18 - 00:50:04:01

I got jeans and sneakers.

 

00:50:04:01 - 00:50:06:10

I really was to use Gigi.

 

00:50:06:20 - 00:50:08:11

I'm like, What the fuck?

 

00:50:08:11 - 00:50:10:07

And we were like, hiking hike.

 

00:50:10:07 - 00:50:13:00

Like, we were like, six

 

00:50:13:00 - 00:50:14:09

and go to affability.

 

00:50:14:09 - 00:50:15:11

Oh, my God.

 

00:50:15:11 - 00:50:17:21

It was it was very high to five towns.

 

00:50:18:01 - 00:50:20:03

So, yeah.

 

00:50:20:05 - 00:50:21:23

Anyway, so that's a thing.

 

00:50:21:23 - 00:50:23:15

So there's always those moments

 

00:50:23:15 - 00:50:26:18

and try to think about why

 

00:50:26:18 - 00:50:28:01

those moments happen,

 

00:50:28:01 - 00:50:28:24

because someone like me

 

00:50:28:24 - 00:50:30:07

might not be listening, right?

 

00:50:30:07 - 00:50:32:13

And I'll just take that out right now

 

00:50:32:13 - 00:50:33:19

because we're on camera.

 

00:50:33:19 - 00:50:38:06

So it's not because it's real, but yeah.

 

00:50:38:06 - 00:50:39:17

So, so, you know,

 

00:50:39:17 - 00:50:41:19

just try to be like, hey,

 

00:50:41:19 - 00:50:43:09

you know, we're going hiking, right?

 

00:50:44:18 - 00:50:46:18

Yeah, we're hiking shoes site.

 

00:50:46:18 - 00:50:47:21

So I think those are

 

00:50:47:21 - 00:50:49:10

the things that are very helpful,

 

00:50:49:10 - 00:50:50:20

just kind of

 

00:50:51:05 - 00:50:53:19

being over informative to a partner

 

00:50:53:19 - 00:50:55:16

who might not necessarily be receptive

 

00:50:55:16 - 00:50:57:05

to all things.

 

00:50:57:05 - 00:50:59:13

So I'll say that as well.

 

00:51:00:03 - 00:51:01:13

Okay. Awesome, awesome.

 

00:51:01:13 - 00:51:04:09

And where are you guys going to next?

 

00:51:04:09 - 00:51:05:10

We're just talking about this.

 

00:51:05:10 - 00:51:06:21

This was kind of talking about it

 

00:51:06:21 - 00:51:08:08

right before this started

 

00:51:08:08 - 00:51:10:02

is Jamaica right?

 

00:51:10:02 - 00:51:11:15

And

 

00:51:12:05 - 00:51:14:12

we're going for a friend's birthday.

 

00:51:14:12 - 00:51:16:13

Yeah, 40th birthday. Right.

 

00:51:17:03 - 00:51:19:20

And it's the same month as my birthday

 

00:51:20:05 - 00:51:21:23

and I'm just like.

 

00:51:21:23 - 00:51:24:07

Right, April seven.

 

00:51:24:10 - 00:51:25:24

08. So yeah.

 

00:51:25:24 - 00:51:28:17

So after every two pages and think

 

00:51:29:06 - 00:51:29:24

that's what I was.

 

00:51:29:24 - 00:51:32:06

And people got

 

00:51:32:22 - 00:51:35:10

my condolences

 

00:51:36:06 - 00:51:38:05

listen, we listen

 

00:51:38:05 - 00:51:41:01

my condolences and we go.

 

00:51:41:12 - 00:51:42:21

And I said to him, I'm like,

 

00:51:42:21 - 00:51:44:08

well, it's not the same weekend

 

00:51:44:08 - 00:51:44:24

as your birthday.

 

00:51:44:24 - 00:51:46:01

So we can go somewhere else.

 

00:51:46:01 - 00:51:47:09

But he is like, it's the same month.

 

00:51:47:09 - 00:51:49:19

I'm like, Okay, bye.

 

00:51:49:20 - 00:51:50:16

And then on top of it,

 

00:51:50:16 - 00:51:51:02

it's like,

 

00:51:51:02 - 00:51:54:05

we have two different types of traveling

 

00:51:54:20 - 00:51:55:15

this is like going.

 

00:51:55:15 - 00:51:56:20

So like, I know the rabbit hole.

 

00:51:56:20 - 00:51:57:14

So we

 

00:51:57:14 - 00:51:58:13

we have different

 

00:51:58:13 - 00:52:00:15

types of ways of travel, I should say.

 

00:52:03:00 - 00:52:03:17

She I think she's

 

00:52:03:17 - 00:52:05:01

more of the outgoing type

 

00:52:05:01 - 00:52:05:22

when it comes to like

 

00:52:05:22 - 00:52:07:16

just having the experience.

 

00:52:07:16 - 00:52:08:13

And I'm more like

 

00:52:08:13 - 00:52:10:05

meticulous in terms of like,

 

00:52:10:05 - 00:52:11:12

I don't really want to do that.

 

00:52:11:12 - 00:52:13:15

I would rather do this type.

 

00:52:13:15 - 00:52:14:17

She's like, Yeah, or whatever.

 

00:52:14:17 - 00:52:15:17

We are here.

 

00:52:15:17 - 00:52:18:07

And I'm thinking about the trip

 

00:52:18:07 - 00:52:19:10

in terms of like,

 

00:52:19:10 - 00:52:21:20

what am I going to be doing there versus

 

00:52:21:20 - 00:52:23:04

what I would like to be doing,

 

00:52:23:04 - 00:52:24:11

because it's like I'm going to celebrate

 

00:52:24:11 - 00:52:24:22

my birthday.

 

00:52:24:22 - 00:52:25:03

And like,

 

00:52:25:03 - 00:52:26:00

we're trying to figure out, like,

 

00:52:26:00 - 00:52:27:12

how is this going to happen?

 

00:52:27:12 - 00:52:29:20

The same model. She's like,

 

00:52:29:21 - 00:52:30:19

we're going to figure it out.

 

00:52:30:19 - 00:52:32:11

Like, you know, we're going to just go

 

00:52:32:11 - 00:52:34:04

this weekend or your birthday.

 

00:52:34:04 - 00:52:35:20

And then I'm like,

 

00:52:36:15 - 00:52:38:07

I don't see how this is happening.

 

00:52:38:07 - 00:52:40:23

So that's just like worrying about

 

00:52:40:23 - 00:52:41:20

I think I want to go

 

00:52:41:20 - 00:52:44:02

visit my friend in Arizona

 

00:52:44:02 - 00:52:44:23

the whole time.

 

00:52:44:23 - 00:52:46:14

Maybe you have some friends,

 

00:52:46:14 - 00:52:47:21

Arizona as well, too.

 

00:52:47:21 - 00:52:49:13

So yeah, we're big online.

 

00:52:49:13 - 00:52:51:18

I think the next trip

 

00:52:53:02 - 00:52:54:12

we're probably going to wait no time.

 

00:52:54:12 - 00:52:55:11

So. Right.

 

00:52:55:14 - 00:52:56:05

So

 

00:52:56:23 - 00:52:58:01

maybe I want to think

 

00:52:58:01 - 00:52:59:18

I'm I'm on Arizona or

 

00:52:59:18 - 00:53:01:07

you see, I, I'm saying hi, I'm fine.

 

00:53:01:07 - 00:53:03:03

This our own

 

00:53:04:04 - 00:53:04:22

Facebook.

 

00:53:04:22 - 00:53:07:05

Wow, this is our she's outgoing.

 

00:53:07:05 - 00:53:08:19

But it's good, though, because,

 

00:53:08:19 - 00:53:09:17

you know,

 

00:53:09:17 - 00:53:11:21

I'll go along for the ride or something.

 

00:53:12:04 - 00:53:16:12

But the we are traveling not far away,

 

00:53:16:12 - 00:53:17:04

just a couple hours

 

00:53:17:04 - 00:53:17:23

a week on travel

 

00:53:17:23 - 00:53:18:24

up north to Albany

 

00:53:18:24 - 00:53:20:24

for Thanksgiving with children.

 

00:53:20:24 - 00:53:21:23

And we already kind of

 

00:53:21:23 - 00:53:23:12

mapping that out in our head

 

00:53:23:12 - 00:53:25:06

and something as a small trip like that

 

00:53:25:06 - 00:53:26:15

we have to kind of like yeah

 

00:53:26:15 - 00:53:27:24

plan like is now

 

00:53:27:24 - 00:53:28:21

we have children

 

00:53:28:21 - 00:53:30:17

who went to Martha's Vineyard

 

00:53:30:17 - 00:53:32:19

and you know we was coming back

 

00:53:32:19 - 00:53:33:24

and one of our daughters

 

00:53:33:24 - 00:53:35:01

got car set

 

00:53:35:01 - 00:53:37:04

for a stopover and I was just like,

 

00:53:37:04 - 00:53:38:18

those are disaster.

 

00:53:38:18 - 00:53:39:21

So these things,

 

00:53:39:21 - 00:53:41:04

you know, hold your girls now

 

00:53:42:04 - 00:53:43:23

and all this will be for in January.

 

00:53:43:23 - 00:53:45:21

And then the youngest is two and a half.

 

00:53:45:21 - 00:53:46:09

Okay.

 

00:53:47:15 - 00:53:49:23

Yeah, we I want to

 

00:53:49:23 - 00:53:52:11

thank you both for jumping on.

 

00:53:52:11 - 00:53:54:14

This was definitely a great experience.

 

00:53:54:22 - 00:53:55:13

You know,

 

00:53:55:13 - 00:53:57:00

I have a best friend and Jackie

 

00:53:57:00 - 00:53:57:20

and Alade

 

00:53:57:20 - 00:54:00:06

I still see, you know,

 

00:54:00:06 - 00:54:02:19

the life and heritage as I do.

 

00:54:02:19 - 00:54:03:03

And

 

00:54:04:05 - 00:54:05:16

it's best

 

00:54:05:16 - 00:54:07:02

maybe we can plan that trip together.

 

00:54:07:02 - 00:54:08:07

Yeah.

 

00:54:08:07 - 00:54:09:07

Oh, we should do that.